Watched a guy die any tips on dealing with that

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  1. Binderboo

    Binderboo New Member

    I drive a small water taxi. The other day someone jumped off a bridge and I was the first on the scene. I pulled him out of the water and took him the the coast guard base. He was throwing up all over me he also turned out to be HIV, hep c positive. I had to get tested for aids and hep c as i was at work. I sat and watched for an hour as the paramedics tried to revive him., no luck he died. I'm kinda having a hard time with all this any tips?
  2. truthhurts

    truthhurts Well-Known Member

    i'd say dealing with any death u come close to may be difficult. especially if the person 'chose' to die. i'd say it'll prolly take time to come to terms with tht, there might not be much u can do to ease that, except for talking about it perhaps.
  3. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Eccentric writer, general weirdo, heedless heathen

    It's really hard to say...I think time will be the healer in this case. It's not something you can overcome overnight. Sorry this happened to you, I understand how hard it must be to deal with.
  4. aussiegal

    aussiegal Well-Known Member

    Wow. Im sorry that happened to you. I can imagine it would be very tough to deal with. Hoping things get easier for you. Try to remember that you have done everything possible in this situation to preserve a life. I am sure the person's family would be very grateful that you did this.
  5. WildCherry

    WildCherry ADMIN

    Wow, I'm sorry for what you've had to deal with.

    Talking about it could possibly help, either here, to someone close to you, or even to a therapist. But I think it'll just take time, because what you've seen is a LOT for you to process.
  6. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    How very brave of you hun to help him i am sorry he did not make it. I think for YOU now you need to talk to someone okay your doctor a therapist that deals with trauma The therapist will help you process evething and help your by letting you vent your emotions and taking you through the trauma you went through that night I hope your test comes back okay hun hugs to you
  7. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    I agree with TE Binderboo...what you did was very brave ..I'm sorry you had to experience the death..
    I also think talking to a professional therapist will help .
    I wish your tests are ok....take care
  8. Wastingecho

    Wastingecho Well-Known Member

    daughter is in college and got her EMT certification 3 years ago

    first year with her college squad she was on a ride-along with the local community EMTs and she witnessed someone die of a heart attack and saw the grief of the family

    she was a wreck until she found a counselor to talk to for awhile

    it helped her a great deal so i agree that you should give it a try
  9. justMe7

    justMe7 Well-Known Member

    :S that's alot... The one thing to remember is that this person made his own choices based on his own life. You just happened to be there, and you did the best that you could for him. It must have been difficult having to see him jump and then pull him out of the water, let alone having him throw up on you, and then watching during that time as he passed away.

    I know that's a bit rough re-summerising it, but the thing is, conciously you've done alot. You've acted and witnessed to someone dying, and seeing people trying to help him. There will be lots of things happening, and I'm not going to throw them out here, because that's not fair to subject you to what could be for you. The thing is, you've been stimulated on a very personal level, in ways you probably never wanted to experience. The thoughts and feelings that happen inside can be dodgy and make you feel uneasy, especially when you're trying to wrap your head around it.
    I'd honestly try finding a councilor. Surely the police or medical departments will direct you to the appriopriate people to talk with if you so choose. But the point is that you talk about it a bit. Help find yourself in this mess, because it's no doubt ground shaking and confusing. Let alone other things. The more you can talk about it, and re-affirm who you are, the more you'll feel comfortable with the situation. Well, as comfortable as it can be.
    The thing to remember is, you did your best. However your thoughts and feelings that were/are motioning about inside you came out, the end result is you did your best. There may be things that are nagging at you, or giving you pause. You can either face them yourself, or get a little help from people with other perspectives.
    You may have questions, perhaps even ones some people here can help you address. There might not be answers, but there are ways of atleast appricating the source of those questions, and the level they can leave you at, so you can find your own peace.
    Hope you're doing ok.
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