A friend emailed me this and it's useful so with permission I'm sharing it: 153 Things to do instead of self harm: 1. Exercise 2. Putting on fake tattoos 3. Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it’s washable!) 4. Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper 5. Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.) 6. Cuddling with a stuffed toy 7. Being with other people 8. Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy) 9. Posting on web boards, and answering others’ posts 10. Thinking about how I DON’T want scars for the summer 11. Painting your nails 12. Going to see a movie 13. Eating something ridiculously sweet (or any favorite food) 14. Doing school work 15. Surf the net 16. Go into chat rooms to talk 17. Call a friend and ask for company 18. Playing a musical instrument 19. Singing 20. Looking up at the sky (night is especially beautiful) . 21. Redo this list. 22. Punching a punching bag (with gloves on) 23. Shoot rubberbands across the room. 24. Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut 25. Mix warm water and red food coloring, and put in on your skin (feels and looks like blood) 26. Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some) 27. Sleep (only if you are tired) 28. A hot shower, or relaxing bath (no razors in the tub, though) 29. Play with a pet 30. Detangling yarn or necklaces 31. Re-organizing your room 32. Cleaning 33. Having a pillowfight with the wall (yes, neighbors may think you are crazy, but that’s ok) 34. Knitting or sewing 35. Reading a good book 36. Dressing up very glamorous (make sure no one can walk in on you, though) 37. Coloring my hair 38. Listening to music (try yo use calm music) 39. Watching a candle burn (no playing with the flames!) 40. Finding someone else you can help out 41. Meditate 42. Watching a scary (but not bloody, but if bloody movies help, than watch a bloody one) movie. 43. Work on a website 44. Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity 45. Go somewhere very public 46. Bake 47. Alphabetize your CD’s 48. Chewing leather (especially if you SI by biting) 49. Buy a home Henna tatoo kit (peels off the next day-similar to skin picking) 50. Painting or drawing 51. Ripping paper into itty-bitty pieces 52. Hugs-(this one is very nice…) 53. Writting letters or email 54. Talk to yourself (or if that feels weird, buy a small tape recorder-I then feel like someone is listening) 55. Stroke nice fabrics 56. Hug a pillow 57. Hyperfocus on something like a rock, hand, etc. 58. fingerprint 59. Scream real loud (make sure no one is home!) 60. Dance 61. Make hot chocolate (mmmmm….) 62. pop bubble wrap 63. play with modelling clay or Play-Dough 64. count to one hundred 65. Build a pillow fort 66. pop balloons 67. Hug yourself 69. Reading things in a different language 70. Going for a nice, long drive 71. Complete something you’ve been putting off 72. Drinking absurd amounts of tea 73. Breaking plastic plates 74. Tearing up socks 75. Throwing socks against the wall 76. Archery 77. Rock climbing 78. Take up a new hobby 79. Organize bills and such 80. Cook a meal 81. Go out for ice cream 82. Buy a stuffed animal 83. Look at pretty things-like flowers or artwork 84. Create Something 85. Pray 86. Randomly wave at people 87. Make a list of blessings in your life 88. Read the Bible 89. Go to a friend’s house 90. Take up fencing 91. Watch an old, happy movie 92. Call a Help hotline or your Therapist 93. Talk to someone close to you that knows 94. Throw a temper-tantrum 95. Hit things-other than yourself 96. Ride a bicycle. 97. Polish silver or jewelry. 98. Gardening or watering house plants 99. Memorizing poetry 100. CHOCOLATE!!!!!!! 101. Feed the ducks or birds or squirrels, etc. 102. Draw on the walls 103. Play with facepaint 104. Do very Glamerous make-up 105. Colour with crayons 106. Memorise a novel or play or song 107. Put on boots and STAMP 108. Stretch 109. Find butterflies 110. Watch fish 111. Come up with baby names (even if you’re not pregnant) 112. Make mashed potatoes 113. Make a tape of your favorite songs 114. Name all of your stuffed animals 115. Go shopping 116. Get into PJ’s and just veg. 117. Buy cheap teddy bears and take out anger on them instead of self. 118. Throw everything (except glass) into the centrer 119. Go to a loud concert 120. Play the 15 minute game (say you can’t cut for 15 minutes, and when the time is up, start again) 121. Plan your wedding / prom 122. Hunt for stuff on Ebay (you can find ANYTHING there) 123. Alphabetize your books 124. Hunt for your perfect home in the paper 125. Take up Tai Chi 126. Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible, then do your friends names) 127. count ceiling tiles/lights 129. search ridiculous things on the web 130. color-co-ordinate your wardrobe 131. do a home tan on yourself 132. sort all your photographs 133. color (or scribble) over the pretty women in magazines 134. plan a dinner party 135. play with a slinky 136. but yourself some toys and play 137. start collecting something 138. get a tattoo / piercing 139. play video/computer games 140. do a trash clean at your local park 141. Play on a swingset 142. go out and perform a random act of kindness for someone 143. call up an old friend 144. write yourself an “I love you because” letter 145. put on fake nails 146. try to build something 147. re-arrange your house 148. go to a public place and people watch 149. go through all your old stuff 150. go bargain - hunting 151. smile at least five people (you usually end up smiling genuinely yourself.) 152. go to the zoo and rename all the animals. 153. go for a peaceful walk.