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Well---it finally happened--I've been terminated

Discussion in 'Work and Financial Problems' started by Kiwi2016, Feb 2, 2018.

  1. Lulabelle

    Lulabelle Forum Pro SF Supporter

    I don't know what to say apart from I'm so sorry you're going through all this shit. It's so unfair.
    Sending massive hugs as that's all I've got xx
     
  2. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    That's a pretty outrageous invasion of your privacy. Did you even have something actually signed with this person?

    Hope that you feel better Kiwi
     
  3. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    Oh, @Kiwi2016 - just saw this thread now. I'm sorry to hear.

    I agree with @may71 that it's a real invasion of your privacy...The privacy laws where I am wouldn't allow HR to say much at all, if anything...If the seller required info, she/he'd have to get a lawyer to send a letter and HR would have to get your okay to release any info - at least here. And if info were released without my consent, I could raise a fuss with both the seller and HR.

    It's a few years ago now, but I lost my job just after my 49th birthday. Yup, feelings were all over the map. I get it.

    I'm around if you want to talk. You're not alone, and you're going to be fine! *big hugs*
     
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  4. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Thanks...need those hugs...so thank you.
     
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  5. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Yes..when it rainsd it pours as they say...hr director going to call loan officer so hopefully that part will stop...yes they were difficult but we loved house...but not meant to be...
     
  6. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Thanks...for thoughts afrer talking to hr director she was pretty horrified ...at this point on automatic pilot as in midst of this colleague who was instrumental in all of this gave insane deadline of moving all unnecessary things out of all areas of museum with deadline of tomorrow 8am...we are talking basically piles and piles of stuff...so made that happen...so now facing director tomorrow as she has been on vacation for last two weeks...just so tired...but have no choice but to keep going...sitting in parking lot not wanting to face husband...as he has been wirking on our budget insurance for me...then friday we go to deal with pension...then i work saturday and sunday...but off monday...at least...sorry all yet another rant i know...
     
  7. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    It's good to tell people what you are experiencing, if it helps. There's noting wrong with it at all
     
  8. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    @Kiwi2016 - ranting is allowed and even encouraged in some situations. Please rant away! Thinking of you and sending love and hope for better days to come. *big hugs*
     
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  9. na-taya

    na-taya Well-Known Member

    @Kiwi2016 im sorry to hear you are dealing with so much right now, i am short of words but know im here reading and you will be in my thoughts *big hug*
     
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  10. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Thanks @may71, @Acy and @na-taya for such kind words and all here...will see director today so feeling a bit anxious to say the least but just have to face it and get it over with and hope will be just left alone to get as much as in order as I can in the next 2 weeks...as well as get all my personal stuff in order as well...
     
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  11. Karmitkurmit

    Karmitkurmit King of the Hedge SF Supporter

    Hi @Kiwi2016 . I cannot believe this is all happening to such a wonderful person; like the others said, you deserve better...but maybe that's the point. Some of the greatest and best changes in life come from the biggest challenges we face; I speak from experience! You just never know what's around the corner.

    I will be keeping everything crossed for you and will be watching this thread for news. You're in my thoughts and my heart.

    I'm so glad you at least have support and aren't doing this alone; and I am utterly impressed at you keeping your head held high by finishing what you started. So many people I know would have stormed out and caused havoc, only to regret it later. So much has been taken from you, don't let them have your dignity as well.

    At the end of the day, at least you now know what you have to do. Take a deep breath and calm your thoughts of the future, it hasn't been written yet; let the past go, we can learn from it but not change it; think only of the next few moments, and once they're gone, repeat. That's all I do, and it seems to help.

    I'm afraid I can't add anything more to what all the wonderful SF family have said already. Let your support network help you to your feet, and drive on with passion and pride, knowing we're right behind you.

    I've been rummaging about in my Hog box, and found this little "Zen Master" especially for you. I hope he brings you the greatest of luck, the most peaceful happiness, and nothing but love and laughter in your future...or, at the very least, a smile today. {Hedgehug} X

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  12. sassy123

    sassy123 SF hugger Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hugs sorry you are going through all of this it sounds very stressful. I hope you are able to retire or maybe find some amazing job. Just know we are all here for you.
     
  13. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Thank you for such wonderful words. .brought tears to my eyes....first ones actually...and love my zen hedgehog going to print and put on my home desk. Thank you.
     
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  14. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Thanks so much on paoer yes retiring but will be exploring options just havent a clue what they are yet...
     
  15. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    I think your employer should have shown more gratitude for having an employee like you. It sounds like you really cared about doing a good job.

    So many people seem to operate strictly on principles of self-interest, they were really lucky to have had you.
     
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  16. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Yes i did and even still do as just the way i am. So will do all i can to get everything in order. But important ad painful lesson learned if in toxic work environment where you are primary target...get out sooner rather than later. Wishing all a good day.
     
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  17. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    That's the really extraordinary part. So many people would just be like "hey, I'm outta here in a month, IDGAF!"

    Please don't be too hard on yourself though. It's good that you care, I just hope that you don't put too much pressure on yourself.
     
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  18. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    No im going to be realistic as only have till feb 26 as thats my last day...
     
  19. Kiwi2016

    Kiwi2016 Forum Pro

    Sorry to bother you all yet again...So I have a question...I have been asked by a co-worker what type of farewell I want...small office outing (we are a staff of 8 and so would be of course with the one if not two colleagues that played a role in all of this but also colleagues that I will dearly miss)...a reception (is this a farce...as really have been terminated but managed to negotiate retirement but would at least feel some dignity as well as chance to say goodbye to folks)...know volunteers are planning something which is so sweet as I will miss them and they had no role in any of this....or do I just quietly go one my way....

    So I am probably overthinking this all as I tend to do...but wondered what all of you thought which would be best for personal and professional integrity...
     
  20. Innocent Forever

    Innocent Forever Go as long as you can. And then take another step. Chat Pro SF Supporter

    Sending loadsa hugs your way....