i have just been told that i dont care about anyone's feeling and was selfish throughout my last relationship. why? what did i do to him? i had problems, like WE ALL DO. i self harmed and od'ed throughout the time we were together. personally i think that says a lot about the strength of the relationship... but fine, i wont go there. i would like to know what people think. is it PURELY selfish to self harm/od? is it an addiction that you can just stop at the click of your fingers? am i infact this horrible person who has apparently *ruined his life* OR is it a coping method for people who are under extreme pressure and stress? is it an addiction that ruins the peoples lives who suffer from it? and am i, infact, not such a bitch afterall? dont get me wrong, i can see that by od'ing and self harming i am causing other people stress and pain. but can they not see the pain *I* am going through in the first place to cause me to do that????????????