Were You Abused As A Child Even If You Think It Is Minor?

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Were You Abused As A Child Even If You Think It Is Minor?

  1. Emotionally

    72 vote(s)
  2. Verbally

    22 vote(s)
  3. Physically

    38 vote(s)
  4. Sexually

    57 vote(s)
  5. All Of The Above

    149 vote(s)
  6. I Was Not Abused

    41 vote(s)
  7. I Think, I Might Have Been Abused

    34 vote(s)
  8. I Know That I Was, But I Do Not Have Any Memories

    6 vote(s)
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  1. boo

    boo Well-Known Member

    If only we were born with a shield against all the attacks life brings.
    We yell and cry when hurted physically, but what happens when the pain is so deep that the tears cannot drown it. Physical and mental hurts are painful, but the true agony is when no one acknowledge it. So we suffer in silence.
  2. bubblin girl

    bubblin girl Well-Known Member

    I was both emotionly/verbaly alot & minor physically
  3. Sadie

    Sadie New Member

    Depends how you define physical abuse? Emotionally yes, but is causing physical pain, abuse?
  4. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Ditto. I was emotionally and verbally abused a hell of a lot as a child. My parents seemed to think it built you up instead of realising they were knocking me down and chipping away at my spirit.

    I was also beaten quite badly, 'Michael Jackson style', but they still don't see that they did anything wrong because that's how they were brought up also.
  5. Scully

    Scully Well-Known Member

    Emotionally/psychocologically a lot, home and school.

    Physically at school.

    Minor sexually? If it's ever minor.

    I feel so angry writing that. :mad::mad:
  6. TBear

    TBear Antiquities Friend

    Physically - beaten bloody...
    Sexually...almost nightly for years....

    It is a miracle I am even alive...
    My father is dead - died an excrutiating death...poetic justice.

    No wonder I married an abusive man....
    He continued what I had grown up with
    Thank G-d he is gone - wish he were dead.
  7. carekitty

    carekitty Guest

    I clicked all of the above.

    And I'm on my second marriage to an abusive man. You'd have thought I'd have learned after I was lucky enough to escape with my life from the first one. I doubt I'll get out alive this time. I've just reached a stage where I no longer care. Death is a way out.

    I wonder at times why many people who were abused tend to marry abusive partners. Is it "what we're comfortable with", or have we been hurt so much we just believe it's what we deserve?
  8. bluegrey

    bluegrey Antiquities Friend

    Some of my earliest memories are of being knocked senseless by my Father. He beat my Brother and myself over the slightest infraction and sometimes seemingly only for his amusement.

    I was sexually abused but in my Father's own style. He would force me to do chores for him upstairs in our house especially in his bedroom while he was stark naked and hovering over me "supervising".

    I went through puberty years later than my peers and I was terribly ashamed of my lack of secondary sexual development. Many mornings, before school as I was undressed to shower my Father would come into the bathroom claiming to need to use the toilet (there was another toilet downstairs). I begged him to let me shower and dress alone only for the situation to degrade to the point where he was hitting me, turning on the shower water and throwing me in while I held both my hands over my undeveloped privates.

    I am a fragile mess of psychological issues because of abuse. If there is a God and an afterlife, I'm going to ask God why he couldn't just spare me my OCD, depression or generalized anxiety disorder considering my upbringing.
  9. boo

    boo Well-Known Member

    Whoa, Denis... I can only hope that you will find a way to erase those painful memories. :sad:
  10. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    I was just thinking of something I could say about that really bad situation, guess Boo did it for me. I hope you can get some sought of peace Denis :(.
  11. bluegrey

    bluegrey Antiquities Friend

    Thank you Boo and LongRoad95...your sentiments mean a whole lot to me :hug:. Unfortunately, to this day I am a sweating, nauseous mess in most social situations and I constantly expect people to sucker punch me with hurtful intentions.
  12. TBear

    TBear Antiquities Friend

    So sorry - I can't take the social situations either... everyday life brings back so many triggers

    The past can't be erased...just faced and mourned - packaged away in a way that lets you learn to work with the after effects

    You are a survivor, strong yet hurt...

    May you find your way through the pain and out the other side!

  13. AtomicsAsylum

    AtomicsAsylum Account Closed

    All of the above :nerves:
  14. Remedy

    Remedy Chat & Forum Buddy

    Emotionally.. I didn't realize how much it impacted me until I spoke to my therapist about it.
  15. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    i don't think any type of abuse is minor. The damage is done regardless of to what extent it is carried out. And the answer is yes on all fronts.
  16. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    I used to feel that way too...walked across the street to avoid ppl...what contributed to lift the paranoia was the understanding that this was not my fault and I did nothing to deserve it...J
  17. JohnADreams

    JohnADreams Well-Known Member

  18. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    I was abused emotionally and verbally...by my father...he was a very mean person...left me on my own alot when I was a toddler and a teen...but when he was there...hell would insue...for a long time my father denied it...saying it never happened and even has fake happy memories...but recently I think he's realised that its not going to fly, especially that now he's done some of the similar things with my step sister and I was there to point it out...so now he knows he can't make me doubt what happened...that was all his game...to make me look like a crazy person...

    I've forgiven some of what he's done...but not all...
  19. DrivEthermissIon

    DrivEthermissIon Banned Member

    Re: Dad

    Despite that horror, you've turned out to become a wonderful, compassionate, intelligent and charismatic man. I'm so proud of you Denis. :hugtackles:

    Here's a song that might help somehow:


    'Still fighting it' by Ben folds five.

    Sorry it's not the original video.

    Good mornin’ son,
    I am a bird,
    Wearin’ a brown polyester shirt,
    You want a coke?
    Maybe some fries,
    The roast beef combo's only 9.95,

    It's ok, you don't have to pay,
    I've got all the change...

    Everybody knows it hurts to grow up,
    And everybody does,
    It’s so weird to be back here,
    Let me tell you what,
    The years go on,
    And we're still fighting it,
    We're still fighting it,
    And your so much like me,
    I'm sorry...

    Good mornin’ son,
    In twenty years from now,
    Maybe we'll both sit down,
    And have a few beers,
    And I can tell you 'bout today,
    And how I picked you up,
    And everything changed.

    It was pain, sunny days and rain.
    I knew you'd feel the same thing...

    Everybody knows it sucks to grow up,
    And everybody does,
    It's so weird to be back here,
    And let me tell you what,
    The years go on,
    And we're still fighting it,
    We're still fighting it,

    You'll try and try,
    And one day,
    You'll fly...away from me.

    [good mornin’ son]
    [good mornin’ son]
    [good mornin’ son]
    [good mornin’ son]
    Good mornin’ son
    [good mornin’ son]
    I am a bird...
    [good mornin’ son]
    [good mornin’ son]

    It was pain, sunny days and rain,
    I knew you'd feel the same thing...

    Everybody knows it hurts to grow up,
    And everybody does,
    It's so weird to be back here,
    And let me tell you what,
    The years go on,
    And we're still fighting it,
    We're still fighting it,
    Oh, we're still fighting it,
    We're still fighting it.

    And your so much like me,

    I'm sorry...
  20. DrivEthermissIon

    DrivEthermissIon Banned Member

    I tried to get good audio quality
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