I'm so sorry about your uncle and the circumstances surrounding what happened. My first memory is when I was 3 or 4. My parents had divorced, and there were issues between them. My mom moved us in with her mom, my grandmother. One evening when she was out, my dad came unannounced to pick me up. My grandmother was holding me, and my dad was pulling on my legs trying to drag me away from my grandmother. I don't remember how it turned out, but I do remember screaming.