Hello everyone,
I'm Juliet,
I've been debating about whether to use this site or not. I'm really clutching at straws.
My friends (*Scott) brother (*Sam) killed himself in February and I feel so terribly useless to my friend. We had a short relationship 4 years ago and after that ended we were only in contact occasionally. Since last christmas it emerged that we both had feelings for each other and were thinking about starting things up again. But when Sam died before we had these things sorted out, of course Scotts world was turned upside down.
I feel like I should be able to reach him and get him to talk. I'm so worried because I think he's pushing it all aside. He's nether been a great one for talking and I wish I knew he was, even to his friends.
I just wish I could help him and let him talk to be about it. I didnt know Sam at all but his death has affected me greatly. I think about it all the time and the pain that Scott and his family is going through.
Of course I understand that this is a very personal, and painful time for Scott and his family and I am in no way expecting anything from Scott relationship wise until or even if he is ever ready.
Not knowing Sam or the rest of Scotts family or friends, I've not been able to be around to offer support. But my feelings for Scott have given me a huge sense of grief and despondancy for something I really haven't had the misfortune to experience.
I suppose what I am asking is for ways to best communicate to Scott. I always ask how he is and he tells me he's fine (which I dont really believe) but I dont want to pry too much for fear of hurting him. I tend to wait for him to contact me so that im not pushing him but I worry when I dont hear from him. Im so scarred he's feeling lonely and that I'm letting him down by not having the nerve to be strong. I think I would feel better if he would talk to me because I would know how he's feeling and I could deal with it.
I'm so so so so sad for him. Sam had a twin and I could not imagine what that poor twin is going through. I've never felt so useless.
Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? Anything would be nice to hear. None of my seperate friends or family know what to say so I have felt a lone in this with no one for me to talk with.
I'm Juliet,
I've been debating about whether to use this site or not. I'm really clutching at straws.
My friends (*Scott) brother (*Sam) killed himself in February and I feel so terribly useless to my friend. We had a short relationship 4 years ago and after that ended we were only in contact occasionally. Since last christmas it emerged that we both had feelings for each other and were thinking about starting things up again. But when Sam died before we had these things sorted out, of course Scotts world was turned upside down.
I feel like I should be able to reach him and get him to talk. I'm so worried because I think he's pushing it all aside. He's nether been a great one for talking and I wish I knew he was, even to his friends.
I just wish I could help him and let him talk to be about it. I didnt know Sam at all but his death has affected me greatly. I think about it all the time and the pain that Scott and his family is going through.
Of course I understand that this is a very personal, and painful time for Scott and his family and I am in no way expecting anything from Scott relationship wise until or even if he is ever ready.
Not knowing Sam or the rest of Scotts family or friends, I've not been able to be around to offer support. But my feelings for Scott have given me a huge sense of grief and despondancy for something I really haven't had the misfortune to experience.
I suppose what I am asking is for ways to best communicate to Scott. I always ask how he is and he tells me he's fine (which I dont really believe) but I dont want to pry too much for fear of hurting him. I tend to wait for him to contact me so that im not pushing him but I worry when I dont hear from him. Im so scarred he's feeling lonely and that I'm letting him down by not having the nerve to be strong. I think I would feel better if he would talk to me because I would know how he's feeling and I could deal with it.
I'm so so so so sad for him. Sam had a twin and I could not imagine what that poor twin is going through. I've never felt so useless.
Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? Anything would be nice to hear. None of my seperate friends or family know what to say so I have felt a lone in this with no one for me to talk with.
