After reading some of the replies to my post "What if its God's plan?", I'm no longer quite sure if it IS His plan. However, my plan included buying a burial plot and headstone without my wife's knowledge. I paid cash for the plot in the small cemetery where my father is buried, and put a deposit on a tombstone that matches his. Whether or not I complete my plan, it is still important for me to see my headstone placed in the cemetery. My plan involved getting a credit card (again w/o my wife's knowledge) to pay for the balance of the stone. I do have a pre-approved AmEx card offer (no interest for 15 months!) that I can send in, and just make minimum payments. But, if I don't commit suicide in the coming months, and instead die in an accident or from natural causes sometime in the future, no one will know to bury me there (about 100 miles away). I don't know if I should just tell my wife about the cemetery, because when she finally realized how depressed I was a year ago, she wasn't very supportive ("What, do I have to worry about you now? If you need to take something, go see the doctor") If I tell her, I fear she will not understand at all, and the already uncomfortable situation at home will become unbearable, which might have the effect of convincing me that my original decision to die was the correct one. What do I do? Should I continue taking the steps of my plan for now, or tell her about the cemetery so that I don't have to finish paying for the stone in secret?