What do you do when you're lonely?

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by DrNick1010, Dec 1, 2010.

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  1. DrNick1010

    DrNick1010 Well-Known Member

    I have a lot of stress in my life right now. I'm in a place that's relatively new to me so I haven't met too many people yet to hang out with. I was dating a girl for a while, but she ended up having too many emotional issues of her own and wasn't "ready" for me. I've struggled in the past with not having many people to talk to about stress or just to do some emotional unloading and whenever I do, I feel like it's a slippery slope to perpetual unhappiness. No one wants to be around someone who hates everything or approaches life with bitter cynicism and distrust. At least I've been able to pull myself out of the despair I felt a while ago, thinking that it was only a matter of time before I cut my wrists, or put a shotgun in my mouth and then tumbled off to hell for eternity. At least I don't feel like God has abandoned me and that I'm damned. But all of this loneliness and stress has crept up on me again and suicide has flooded my thoughts these past few days. Whenever I'm around close friends and family I feel safe. While I don't talk about my problems, at least I know I'm in a place where I'm appreciated. But at the same time, there's something missing there. They all seem to have moved on and I feel like I have to as well. Some of us were just meant to wander I guess and that's me now to the core. I do know that they all love me, but I feel so pointless, just kind of there, and awfully easy to replace. So where do you go and what do you do when the limited times you have with loved ones should be happy and not burdensome? I love God and pray for guidance but God won't speak directly to you and God won't hug you or go for a walk with you when you need someone. I feel so tired with it all. Madness is taking hold and all I see ahead of me is disappointment, heartache, and death. I realize no one can predict the future, but I've been waiting a long time and happiness for me only lasts about five minutes and is followed by months of emptiness and desperation.
     
  2. dazzle11215

    dazzle11215 Staff Alumni

    I often feel lonely. I rely on my therapist, I see her twice a week. I also have a few good friends I can share anything with. It took a while to make those friends, and I really cherish them. I also use the suicide hotline. I find I can talk about all my feelings quite honestly and openly with them. My experience was that they are staffed by kind, compassionate people who are willilng to listen to my pain and doubt, they have time for me no matter how despairing I am. It's good to make that human connection, to be heard. Have you ever tried calling?
     
  3. eddieukuk

    eddieukuk Member

    I god I know how u feel - I can bein crowded room and still be so lonely.xxx
     
  4. mollycat

    mollycat Member

    drink like a fish and watch porn on the inter-net.
    then wake up feeling like a shit and go to work.
     
  5. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Might I suggest a pet? I had constant loneliness and loneliness-caused panic attacks until I got my cat. He was languishing in a shelter for probably several years and so it did both of us a lot of good.
     
  6. DrNick1010

    DrNick1010 Well-Known Member

    Dazzle, the suicide hotline is an excellent suggestion. I guess I always thought of those as more of a "help me, the gun is in my mouth" scenario, but from what you've described they will just listen. I would certainly think they would understand when suicidal thoughts a cropping up inside a person. I'm feeling a little better now, but next time, as I'm certain there will be, I will have to give it a try, just to let off some steam and frustration that if bottled up I know will lead to me thinking extensively about suicide.

    Aoeu, funny you should mention that. I have been wanting a cat for a long time. Unfortunately I can't have pets where I live right now, but I'll be moved out in a year and a half and hopefully into something more permanent. I hope to get a cat as soon as my living situation is different. I love black cats and I hear they are often neglected because of superstitions.
     
  7. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    Hi everybody... Hi Dr. Nick... How are you feeling today?
     
  8. DrNick1010

    DrNick1010 Well-Known Member

    Feeling better than before, still a little miserable though. Coming down with a cold and fatigued so I've been a little moody and detached most of the day. My mind feels so broken sometimes. When I first noticed my voice cracking earlier I thought, "hmmm, pneumonia? Hopefully." I hate it when I do that.
     
  9. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    Twiddle my thumbs, rage at people, play on xbox, fart, come online, feel even more alone and repeat every hour
     
  10. Ms. Nobody

    Ms. Nobody Member

    I play with my dogs and watch tv. I used to talk to my boyfriend but he doesn't want anything to do with me when I'm depressed. Oh, also drinking though I wouldn't necessarily recommend it.
     
  11. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Maybe you could get something you can keep in a cage in the meantime. Most places don't mind them as much as other pets. Once you get a cat the caged animal might be terrified for a while but they'd get used to eachother.
     
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