Xinyu Hu, who is a 15 years old student in China, committed suicide last year and led to a heated discussion on Chinese website. Beijing Federation of Social and Psychological Work posted a letter on Weibo, but caused a bad name on psychological work.
Original letter:
"My child, please give me five minutes, I can tell you what is "worth living" and what is "the meaning of living". Isn't your 15-year-old youth the best time in life?! Isn't your sweet smile the most worthy pride of your parents?! Every day you exist, your family is complete! Every morning and evening after you leave, your parents are in the dark!
My child, please give me five minutes. I can tell you that now you "don't want to end your life, but want to end your pain". If you have a bad academic record, can't go to college or a good school, it's just the result of the exam, not the whole of life. You said that the relationship between students is tense and the relationship between teachers and students is bad. Everyone is very busy. Take care of themselves and can't be distracted from you. Yes, you have only been together for three years. In the future, there will be a lot of mentors and friends, from drinking to chatting to sleeping together. You said that living is pain. You are tired of the world, you are not in high mood, and you feel angry or sad. Yes, every emotion is meaningful only when you feel its existence. If you are gone, you have no chance to feel sadness and pain: stimulate your anger, stimulate your fighting spirit, and generate strong and intense male pride!
My child, please give me 5 minutes, I can tell you that you are not the only one in the world. Some people wrote "One Hundred Years of Solitude" and won the Nobel Prize for Literature. Some people were disabled for life and became famous physicists. People are born lonely, which is one of the most precious feelings of people. I understand that behind your tearful smile, the lonely cage set by yourself can protect you. As long as you can breathe air from the gap, you have the meaning to live."
What do you think of this letter? What does it mean if "some people wrote 'One Hundred Years of Solitude' and won the Nobel Prize for Literature"? But due to my loneliness, I'm still fucking nothing! Others are successful, whereas I am just a wasted person. What does it mean if "every day you exist, your family is complete! Every morning and evening after you leave, your parents are in the dark!"? The source of my despair is mostly my damn original family. Am I just exist for my parents? Is my meaning of life amusing my families? Can't I live for myself????
I think this is the most vicious curse I've ever read for it doesn't understand Chinese students' situation. They didn't wade through the muddy water, so they can never wear the same shoe as us. Even though I have been one year from the end of the college entrance examination, I will still be awakened by the nightmare of the exam, for example, I cannot finishing the writing or the answer card is taken away without finishing it. They don't know the trauma, the scars, the painful experience to grow up. They don't deserve to talk about suffering.
Just blindly preaching can only results in faster suicide. If I'm Xinyu Hu, I would directly jump out of the window after reading this bullshit.
Original letter:
"My child, please give me five minutes, I can tell you what is "worth living" and what is "the meaning of living". Isn't your 15-year-old youth the best time in life?! Isn't your sweet smile the most worthy pride of your parents?! Every day you exist, your family is complete! Every morning and evening after you leave, your parents are in the dark!
My child, please give me five minutes. I can tell you that now you "don't want to end your life, but want to end your pain". If you have a bad academic record, can't go to college or a good school, it's just the result of the exam, not the whole of life. You said that the relationship between students is tense and the relationship between teachers and students is bad. Everyone is very busy. Take care of themselves and can't be distracted from you. Yes, you have only been together for three years. In the future, there will be a lot of mentors and friends, from drinking to chatting to sleeping together. You said that living is pain. You are tired of the world, you are not in high mood, and you feel angry or sad. Yes, every emotion is meaningful only when you feel its existence. If you are gone, you have no chance to feel sadness and pain: stimulate your anger, stimulate your fighting spirit, and generate strong and intense male pride!
My child, please give me 5 minutes, I can tell you that you are not the only one in the world. Some people wrote "One Hundred Years of Solitude" and won the Nobel Prize for Literature. Some people were disabled for life and became famous physicists. People are born lonely, which is one of the most precious feelings of people. I understand that behind your tearful smile, the lonely cage set by yourself can protect you. As long as you can breathe air from the gap, you have the meaning to live."
What do you think of this letter? What does it mean if "some people wrote 'One Hundred Years of Solitude' and won the Nobel Prize for Literature"? But due to my loneliness, I'm still fucking nothing! Others are successful, whereas I am just a wasted person. What does it mean if "every day you exist, your family is complete! Every morning and evening after you leave, your parents are in the dark!"? The source of my despair is mostly my damn original family. Am I just exist for my parents? Is my meaning of life amusing my families? Can't I live for myself????
I think this is the most vicious curse I've ever read for it doesn't understand Chinese students' situation. They didn't wade through the muddy water, so they can never wear the same shoe as us. Even though I have been one year from the end of the college entrance examination, I will still be awakened by the nightmare of the exam, for example, I cannot finishing the writing or the answer card is taken away without finishing it. They don't know the trauma, the scars, the painful experience to grow up. They don't deserve to talk about suffering.
Just blindly preaching can only results in faster suicide. If I'm Xinyu Hu, I would directly jump out of the window after reading this bullshit.
