Ok so someone close to me has recently been dumped. She is very upset about it and seems to be blaming herself, saying things like "I obviously wasn't loosing weight quick enough" etcetc. The other night I noticed a large burn mark on her right arm, when I asked her about it she said she had caught it on the oven. Fair enough, it's possible. Then I noticed a large, nasty looking bruise on her upper arm. I asked her about it and she said she had no idea where it came from, and hadn't even notied it until just then. I've spoken to a couple of people who know her and they seem to be quite worried about her. I don't know what to say / do / think. IF it was self harm, surely she would have covered it up? But at the same time, she's pretty obviously depressed, and upset about the break up. I am a previous self harmer and I have seen what it did to her. I don't think she would put other people through it. I don't know. What do you think?