I guess my question is what is masculine behavior? Is it being "strong" and the "bread winner"? Is it just not being feminine? I'll share what I think a "man" should be like. A man should be hardworking, but ready to have fun. Be there when asked for advice but keep his mouth shut otherwise, be supportive of decisions and understand that they don't know everything. Take time for yourself, but always be ready to help others. Be careful, that is be thoughtful about what you're doing, who you're doing it to and what it does to them. (You don't exist in a vacuum.) Women should be treated with respect, and as equals (when warranted). What I mean here is a sort of deference, that is give way because it's not worth a fight. This should usually be extended to men as well. Of course, this is entirely related to the social situation and is really the heart of my question. So, how do I treat women? I am a joker, I like to laugh and to tell stories and to keep everything light even when it is serious, especially when it is serious. What does that mean? Okay, so a statement like that is not descriptive at all. Here is an example: I went out with a couple of friends (guy and girl sort of an item but the guy is heart broken over a beauty and won't see the beauty in front of him) me, I'm a guy who has to work out to be out of shape. We meet up with a couple of other girls and a guy. Mostly this is a group hipster yuppies running wild in NYC. We go to a bar and a girl steps on my foot, now I'm wearing steal toed boots and didn't notice. But the girl says "hey I'm sorry for stepping on your shoe" so, being a man and horny I take the offering from the girl. Here, okay an important point I'm making about what I think a man does; TAKE THE OFFERING OF CONVERSATION. I say "I think I'm crippled now," I hop over to my beer, "The least you can do is drink with me." Okay, so I'm a little bit of an alcoholic and we had a few more drinks together, and we joked for a bit. I suggested I should "step on her foot to even things." It was stupid but she laughed at me and we ended up at her apartment, albeit with a bunch of other friends and random people but still when we slept together and I felt accomplished. Now, we did not have sex, I got a blowjob and ate her out, well I ate her out first but then I didn't have a condom and she was accommodating. I have her number, and she's a pretty cool girl who's really fucking funny (she works as a PA and script girl [script bitch] she also works with friends of mine on commercials). I'm seeing another girl who's fantastic, well we get along and she gets the fact I'm not really interested in being committed to someone, emotionally. I tried that with the few girls who've been kind to me and I've felt betrayed or hurt and dissatisfied with how things turned out. I don't really know what I mean about how a man should act, I guess I'm wondering if people think I'm a dick for how I act.