What is life

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by artikchill, Mar 14, 2009.

  1. artikchill

    artikchill Well-Known Member

    We all go through life wondering what's going to happen and what challenges are in front of us. Life is like a game, if you play it wrong, you lose in the end and relationships are just like this to be honest. Some times you don't see what's in front of you until it's to late.
    Here is something that I came up with in the process of losing my first love and son:

    I have learned a lot over the last 3 weeks to make a huge change in my reactions and life. Some of them I don't really understand but I know it's for the best intentions of my family and I am welling to learn. When you don't really have any parents that are there to teach you the things that are needed to have a relationship and you base everything off of theirs then that gets pretty difficult due to the fact that each relationship is different. When you got through life not seeing the other person or being blind for that matter then you are missing out on the most important thing there is to look forward too, and that's completing that empty space that you have that hasn't been completed yet.
    Have you ever stopped or took the time to think about what you want in life or the things that have happened. People go through life being hurt or getting hurt and don't understand that this is part of life to be honest this is how we learn. We get knocked done to get back up and learn from that mistake or issue that's happened as hand or that moment. People have to learn and I did that words or not everything in a relationship or when you promise something to some one, actions speak louder then words. If you do nothing but run your mouth and nothing to back up then basically your blowing air and have nothing to back it up... this is a big issue, this is what ends a lot of friendships, relationships, families etc. This leads to trust and trust leads to being happy but this is not the way we as humans work. We take trust and abuse it in any way possible till it's to late to try to fix it or until we fight to o end to realize your fighting a losing battle.

    There are some wars that we fight through life and this war is within us, not with other people but with yourself. This war can cost us everything and every one... To point that we don't know what to do and we feel lost. This can break down the most stubborn person to a point of ignorance because they didn't know what was done until their eyes are open. There are things within yourself that you must realize.
    I want you to think about something, what's the longest you have been in pain or hurt? What is the worst pain you have ever been in and I don't mean pain, pain. I mean emotional pain. The last 21 days have been the hardest for me due to the fact I got slapped with reality hard. living in your own little word it not the best route to take do to the fact that you get stuck there and don't see what is really going on until that one thing comes at you and makes you realize that it's not worth it in the end.


    When you finally come to reality you realize it's not as easy as you expected it to be specially when things start to go down hill. When that happens you then realize that you are now being tested to see how you hold up to the pressure of being a parent, grown-up, as well as other things. It's not easy but if you take the time to sit down and plan it all out then you might have a change to make it through the rough times that are waiting for you.


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    I posted this in the wrong area. It was suppose to go in the Members' Diary section

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  2. Zurkhardo

    Zurkhardo Well-Known Member

    You've conveyed much of the existentialist and borderline nihilistic thoughts that haunt me as well. For that I feel a little less alone. Well said my friend.
     
  3. artikchill

    artikchill Well-Known Member

    I know it's not the best. I should've edited it before actually posting it but I think I'll be fine and I'm glad I could help. These things have been haunting me for some time now and just had to get it out in the open to see if any one else had the same thoughts.
     
  4. Angelo_91

    Angelo_91 Well-Known Member

    For the last week, Ive been thinking about this. I have been watching Animal Planet a lot lately. I just observe the animals and it is now clear humans are just as vulnerable as the animals. So many animals die but the cycle doesn't end, it just keeps going forth. Just like animals, humans are battered and put to challenges that in the end kill them and then more are prodcued. Life goes on, and emotions are irrelevant now. Yeah I can't really explain what my mind sees but I hope someone gets my point.

    I'm only 17 and I only see life as a game of survival. You are what you are and if you aren't happy with that, you gotta deal with it and die. I have thoughts that humans are made to kill each other. I even think about killing for the thrill like a wild animal and to crush peoples smiles.

    Back to topic; I get what you are thinking.
     
  5. LastCrusade

    LastCrusade Well-Known Member


    well said
     
  6. BlueWind

    BlueWind Well-Known Member


    "Life is just a bowl of All-Bran
    You wake up every morning and it's there
    So live as only you can
    It's all about enjoy it 'cos ever since you saw it
    There aint no one can take it away.

    So life is just a bowl of All-Bran - very true!
    What you say has made it very clear
    To be sure I'll live as best as I can
    But how can I remember to keep it all together
    When half the moon is taken away?

    Well, I've got the very thing
    If you can laugh and sing
    Give me those happy days toytown newspaper smiles
    Clap twice, lean back, twist for a while
    When you're untogether and feeling out of tune
    Sing this special song with me, don't worry 'bout the moon
    Looks after itself":confused::blink::rolleyes:
     
  7. brittini

    brittini Well-Known Member

    Very well put my dear James, very well put.
     
  8. Zurkhardo

    Zurkhardo Well-Known Member

    In a basic, biological sense we live merely to continue life. Everything else can be interpreted as just flair.
     
  9. artikchill

    artikchill Well-Known Member

    Actually this is all true if you take the time to understand it. It's just not flare is an understanding that most people miss when they feel depressed or lonely.
     
  10. danz

    danz Well-Known Member

    life to me........
    To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning and to suffer.
    Heard that in a song once but dont remember who.
    sorry for the negativity.