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What is the right thing to do?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by spleen, Jun 7, 2009.

  1. spleen

    spleen Member

    I've been deeply depressed for several years now but during the last couple of months I've regained a little hope since I've fallen in love with a wonderfully sympathetic, intelligent and beutiful woman.

    I haven't really confronted her with my deepest feelings yet she has shown clear sign of interest in me. We get along very well in conversations and share values and humour.

    Now the problem is that I know that she, like me, have issues of depression. I honestly think that she deserves someone that can unconditionally support her in a way I'm not sure I can do. I'd rather stay depressed and see her happy with someone else than to satisfy my own emotional needs on her expense.

    What should I do? Should I make the leap of faith, or should I just stay in the background?
  2. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    My suggestion is make the leap of faith my friend!
    I don't believe that two people who have issues with depression generally bring each other down. I think they validate each other and bring each other up.
    God for it. Let us know how it goes if you do :heart:
  3. Bambi

    Bambi Well-Known Member

    In this crazy world I say embrace any chance of love!
    I have heard many success stories of people who both dealt with depression but I will say they all were in some form of therapy-separate, together all combos. I think that is what allowed them to keep the relationship healthy and not put undue pressure on the relationship.
    Hope this helped and good luck!
  4. mdmefontaine

    mdmefontaine Antiquities Friend

    if love is the question, YES is always the answer

    you have to try.

    otherwise you'll always wonder ''what if.....?"

    truest love happens only a few times in a lifetime. some never find it at all.
    you honestly have nothing to lose. and everything to gain.