What reasons behind Teenagers suicide?

[Boratz]

This is bothering me reading posts from teens. The teenage life should be fun & full of life free from thiking mortgage,money, food rent ,etc...
I do wonder why in such a young life they think about suicide. Why? I have so much fun during my days,but now as we grow older more responsibility, chaotic ,life divorce, disputes, stressors & the baggage that comes with it.
But this things comes in the age of maturity. Baggages of life . But for teens
I am very distraught by this thoughts.
I have a teenager < i am afraid he will also get through it. I wouldn't know what to do. He seems happy when I see him or call him, but who knows
he is hiding something. Every mother should make sure the children are alright.Physically & mentally. I can feel the pain of parents of these children.

To our youngsters pls. don't allow yourselves from the dictates of the society. The more simple you are,the beauty comes along. You don't need to copy the fashion of hollywood or she has this,& i don't the more you can stand from these pressures from the society,the stronger you are not to give in ,you become more stand out among the crowd.
Be comfortable under your skin,not outside. Those who wear make up & shit those are signs of being pathetic. The make up & cloting has nothing to do of who you are. I always remind my son about it especially that he is a mutt, & it shows in his skin but no one bothers him with that. Even teachers , they messed up with my son, prepare for thy mother.

This is a responsibilty of every parent. Not yours. To make sure the communication is open & being honest even they makes mistakes. There are no right there is wrong ,it depends on the situation.
Adults should be an example us to them.
Simple life, simple problems.

Be comfortable under your skin & you will gain alot of confidence inside of you.
I trust that every teens are unique, your own style is yours, not a copycat
of what you see around you. Simplicity is beauty.

 

[carol2237]

Boratz,

I could sit here and tell you all of my reasons for being suicidal, however, i am not going to. The fact that you are bothered by it shows that you are a caring and supportive mother, one who wants her children to live happily. Many of the teenagers on here do not have that support behind them. They have no one to turn to about their problems. Many of the teens here have been raped, beaten, abused. Others have eating disorders, problems with self harming, or grief, there are reasons for everyone of us to be depressed, none of have been through the same exact thing. I must agree however, that it is hard to fathom that there are so many teens here, but it is the truth of it, so all we can do is try to help.

Caroline

Caroline

 

[Darken]

The are of course lots of different reasons for different people but I think the main reasons are: Lack of social activity, seperation from each other, lack of healthy life style. Healthy life style can is kind of vague, It means they don't have the support and assistance they need to live healthy and have a healthy mind. I've been suicidal since I was 12, I used to ask god to kill me, and curse at him. I hated what I was, a stupid poor bastard child. With a disturbed mind. I've never been normal, that is good and bad but mostly bad. I don't fit in with any one and my social skills are horrible causing me to be a loner and unable to get far in any type of social enviroment, school and work.

 

[Wonderstuff]

I agree with those, and I'll throw in another few here - pressures of having to do well all the time with your parents comparing your grades to others in your class and then telling you they're not good enough (even though I'm at uni now my parents still do this), and bullying, which happens a LOT.

 

[Boratz]

Caroline, Moonstar , Darken,

That I agree with all you ,the abuse from the parents, the rape & psycologically abused must be very traumatic coz even when the adults we could hardly escaped from. I know this part becoz I was battered before .How much more with the little child. I come from a different
culture so I can only imagine these cruelty from the parents & the societal in its entirety. I can see the pressures of being this & being that but it cannot dawn on me how must been horrifying memories they can be. i can see why the depression in the adults but kids? In my village if a man beat his wife or his children , you can see him hanged in the coconut tree upside down. I never seen one but my dad told us .
I am troubled when they say I am 15 y/old , & i am suicidal. I cannot
see myself in that situation. I have been in a 12 yrs of bitter custody & he uses my son asa weapon against me. And he won ultimately. Yet I cansay
that i am very vigilant of what he does to my son.
It is my desire to be of guidance for them. In my state is very racist, that even to volunteer in the boys & girls club I couldn't. I want to volunteer there to taech chess but I can speculate that there must be something
the staff or the administration is hiding.
I have no choice to be here as my son is here & he needs to be
protected.
zI hope we can all come together & together be a guiding light to our
children. The future of the society is in their hands.

 

[Panopticon]

I'm not a teenager so I can't post in your topic ^^

 

[nagisa]

I remeber being seven when I thought of suicide for the first time. I beleive that I was born with a chemical imbalance because I really can't imagine why any seven year old would even think of something like that. I was always depressed. I don't remember there ever being a time when I wasn't.

 

[Boratz]

Re: What reasons behind Teenagers suicide?

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I'm not a teenager so I can't post in your topic ^^

Let us guide our children to escape from abusers, so feel free to add your two dimes.

 

[Patch]

I feel so out of place when people give actual reasons for their suicidal/depressed feelings. I've never really had anything terrible happen to me...upsetting things but nothing terrible. But I remember breaking down in my after-school program (I don't remember exactly how old I was but it was for children ages 7-9) crying and admitting that I constantly thought about throwing myself in front of cars. I don't know why I was so sad at that age.

 

[TheBLA]

I think the biggest reason is pressure from their peers and behind that, parents.

They are upset that they are overweight, get less grades, are less popular, have less material goods than their peers.

Then they are upset that they are a dissapointment to their parents, not living up to their parent's expectations, not getting enough good marks, not making a sports team.

These are my assumptions.

 

[ggg456]

family
denial
silencers
double speak
suffocating things around me, people, school
lack of safety.

mostly the effect of denial from bystanders and abusive people who were in my care for my formative years. :smile:

 

[Light_In_The_Dark]

Im 16 and Im not very suicidal. But I can tell why teens commit suicide. In Croatia, the number of suicide increased couse of school grades and pressure (new model of education - more tests and pressure). But the main reason is bullying, mobbing and situations in life that you can't control. Most of people are ignorant about suicide: they call people emo, they laugh etc etc. The main definition of suicide for many people is the perfect solution for long-time uncontrollable problems like mobbing or bullying (there are many examples). I think that main problem is that society is ignorant about suicide and they most of the time turn the blind eye on the topic how to help suicidal people. Society, teens especially don't know how to feel (that results of mocking the suicidal people) and they don't know how to help.

 

[ConsolationPrizeFighter]

boratz
its a bigger problem now... but i dont see there is much that my generation has... between global warming, oil empires, and George Bush murdering our friends in Iraq... Its a terrible time to be alive besides all of the other problems and things that drives us to suicide.

myself, i wanted to die in the fourth grade. Isaid it out loud and my parents were like,"dont say that!" and i guess the world is ignorant to all that shit. I never got help until i was in the 8th grade. Its just not accepted i guess. I cant stand that about it and its a vicious cycle when you know nothing but pain after the age of six. I hate myself for wanting to die and i hate myself for not letting me die. theres shit more but i dont want to talk about it. society doesnt understand it. its just a hard thing to explain. the bright side is that so many of us are trying not to kill themselves on this forum and with the other help we get. but whatever...

 

[delargeal]

I don't happen to believe all that crap about peer pressure, and trying to be fashionable and whatnot is the cause. Most people I know, myself included, don't give a rats arse about that sort of thing and know for a simple fact that that isn't what causes it.

I'm 18 now, so legally I'm an adult but it depends if you see 18 as adult or teenager.

 

[resistance]

It's a 'reflection', I guess, of just how things in this world are changing for the bad. Crime rates etc are on the increase, drugs are on the increase, family structure is going down the pan. Nowadays you can't walk down the street without fear of being robbed or stabbed in some areas of the UK. Stabbings even happen in school, and shootings, as we know. People aren't as respected as they used to be. The thuggish culture. Some families who don't give two shits that you're their own flesh and blood. Others just don't talk, families don't talk. Pressure to do well. The groups in school, cool kids vs not-so-cool kids. The chavs. Etc.

The worse thing of all is being ignored. When a teen feels low it is often dismissed and put down to just being a teenager. Quite a few of the older generations think this, teens don't have any reason to be depressed. Shouldn't have any reason but in this day and age... they do.

Boratz, please, please, please, if your son says he feels down or shows any signs, don't dimiss them. You sound caring and thoughtful, and I am glad you have bought up this topic.

 

[tintin]

most teenagers have reasons for feeling suicidal... rape bereavement and eating disorders r among the many reasons.
i have my own personal reasons for it... :unsure:
it is scary though how many teens r on here and how young some r.

 

[aeommai]

family
denial
silencers
double speak
suffocating things around me, people, school
lack of safety.

yesyesyes.

having the people you care about most leave very suddenly.
a death in the early years causes alot of this kind of thing.

you know though, im sure you care about your child(ren), but be careful not to be too touchy and clingy.
they are smart, they should know they can talk to you about things.

know when to let go too.

 

[Obsessive]

This is bothering me reading posts from teens. The teenage life should be fun & full of life free from thiking mortgage,money, food rent ,etc...
I do wonder why in such a young life they think about suicide. Why? I have so much fun during my days,but now as we grow older more responsibility, chaotic ,life divorce, disputes, stressors & the baggage that comes with it.
But this things comes in the age of maturity. Baggages of life . But for teens
I am very distraught by this thoughts.

This was actually one of the things that depressed me more back then - knowing that I wasn't anywhere near the bottom. Knowing that there was plenty of room to go further downhill. And 7 years, 30+ medications, 8 therapists, and 8 sessions of electricity being pumped into my brain later, it still has room to get a lot worse. At this point, it would actually make me feel better to know that I've hit rockbottom.

To our youngsters pls. don't allow yourselves from the dictates of the society. The more simple you are,the beauty comes along. You don't need to copy the fashion of hollywood or she has this,& i don't the more you can stand from these pressures from the society,the stronger you are not to give in ,you become more stand out among the crowd.
Be comfortable under your skin,not outside. Those who wear make up & shit those are signs of being pathetic. The make up & cloting has nothing to do of who you are. I always remind my son about it especially that he is a mutt, & it shows in his skin but no one bothers him with that. Even teachers , they messed up with my son, prepare for thy mother.

This is a responsibilty of every parent. Not yours. To make sure the communication is open & being honest even they makes mistakes. There are no right there is wrong ,it depends on the situation.
Adults should be an example us to them.
Simple life, simple problems.

Be comfortable under your skin & you will gain alot of confidence inside of you.
I trust that every teens are unique, your own style is yours, not a copycat
of what you see around you. Simplicity is beauty.

As much as we'd all like to believe in the "be yourself" rhetoric, I sincerely believe it to be complete bull. I believe everyone adopts traits of their parents/friends/idols because, in the end, we all seek acceptance among peers. If you don't conform, whether it be because you want to "be yourself" or because you're not smart enough, you end up as an outcast like me; probably staying home all day, playing video games, and trying to avoid looking at your wrists because the way your veins are pressing up against your skin as though they're inviting something.

 

[Esmeralda]

Aside from hereditary mental illnesses or chemical imbalances, most teenagers who are suicidal are that way because they are self-absorbed. They have no foresight and no patience and so being sad for 1 or 2 years seems like an eternity for them. When you are a teenager, you think the world revolves around you and it is a rarity to see a teenager who cares about much besides things that affect them directly. Teenagers cannot see or think globally, so all they have is the shit that is happening to THEM right NOW. This mentality makes for some pretty extreme highs and lows.

Teenagers are also under the impression that the opinions of people they will never see again after high school are actually worth a shit. Most teens could benefit greatly from learning how to tell other teens/bulllies to go fuck themselves.

 

[Boratz]

This was actually one of the things that depressed me more back then - knowing that I wasn't anywhere near the bottom. Knowing that there was plenty of room to go further downhill. And 7 years, 30+ medications, 8 therapists, and 8 sessions of electricity being pumped into my brain later, it still has room to get a lot worse. At this point, it would actually make me feel better to know that I've hit rockbottom.

As much as we'd all like to believe in the "be yourself" rhetoric, I sincerely believe it to be complete bull. I believe everyone adopts traits of their parents/friends/idols because, in the end, we all seek acceptance among peers. If you don't conform, whether it be because you want to "be yourself" or because you're not smart enough, you end up as an outcast like me; probably staying home all day, playing video games, and trying to avoid looking at your wrists because the way your veins are pressing up against your skin as though they're inviting something.

I had my psych appt yesterday. I brought to his attention why there are so many kids who comes & go at the office. He ask why do you that. I said I go to the SF ,o you do. Mentioned the numbers of kids besides the adults who pour their emootions in here. I don't understand. Me I said, you know me for 12 yrs. & the baggage that the bitter custody of my son traumatized me. I ask why do you think the kids ? HE said the lack of
guidance from the parents. And he adviced me too about my son as he always ask him how is he doing ,& I can feel the sincerity he means well.

And to throw again the beliefs from the regimentaion from the society + the reinforcements of the church makes i can see why being your true
self is so much difficult. I am so luckky my father questions the authority of the religion.

My son ,after the final straw of the custody , I completely discarded all the
traces of religion in my system. Along with this I replaced the Sunday mass with fun, going out for breakfast , find things to look forward to the weekends.
But still,I don't them as an advan tage from what you guys said the peer pressure that our teens had to contend with , 40 hrs of regimentation in school + the goddamn homework up to ying yang.
Parents it tell you a piece of my mind again, I told myson do more in sports & things that gives you pleasure rather this homewrks & I will deall with the principal as I was screaming about these tons of homework all at the same time.
I brouhgt it to the attention of the NH Dept. of Education & I am still contending with it until today. I have only one ,imagine if you have like 3 of them? The PTA always talks about fund raising. asking our children to sell stuff. I trow it out in garbage & tell my son to tell his teacher that if she ask about it , tell her to ask my momy.

I do disagree that reinforcing the rhetoric of become as you are. I have
proven it. To me ,my brothers ,sisters & my family. Now to my son.
This truth comes from not the father from heaven ,but my own father whom we adore & missed the bedtime stories everynight. We have things like jewelries from back to the 1800's , we don't wear them. I gave them away.
I throw the 7K diamond ring my fiancee gave me in the pond & flush wedding rings in the toilet. My mother has a lot of jewlries I have no desire of keeing them. esp. diamonds. You know how many kids died just to find those goddamn it?

Our best ally is our children in life & in death. Speak for them when they are afraid or can't. These homewkr,this brought to my attention my son.
He told me the favorite time in school is the gym time.

I agree with the force of the academia ,it is a bullshit,Harvard yale. I will not go there even they pay me to go there. I can search anything they know,than waste my time of their bullshit.

Away from religion is a good step to question authorities. My son's friends
ask him why you don't pray before meals, tell them we have no time for Mr. Jesus.
This is becoming a lecture now , all of us should the least we can do to our children is to reinforce the values the best we can. Values of the 21th century. Our mouth is the biggest portal to our brain.

This thread is dedicated to our children.

Borat