What role does sexual frustration play in depression/suicide?

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  1. mike25

    mike25 Well-Known Member

    Some of the people on the forum have indicated that sexual frustration is playing a substantial part in their suicidal feelings. I just wonder what the members point of view is on this topic.
  2. Well, it is a problem when an ex breaks up with you, and makes you feel much worse, as my ex did to me. I'm going to write a thread about it soon.
  3. Greenforest

    Greenforest Well-Known Member

    Possible, but I have had other problems that have caused my suicidal thoughts and haven't even had time to frustrate over girls. Though of course when there's no one to hug in the dark times, no one to love, it increases depression.
  4. theleastofthese

    theleastofthese SF Friend Staff Alumni

    It plays no role in my depressive/suicidal thoughts and feelings but loneliness plays a large part, that and feelings of failure.:sad:
  5. Edicius si Evol

    Edicius si Evol Well-Known Member


    A huge role.
  6. Malcontent

    Malcontent Staff Alumni

    To be honest I don't think sexual frustration plays much, if any, role in my depression. Don't mean to be crude but I have a hand and internet access, so the basic physical needs are taken care of. But lack of intimacy (physical and emotional) with someone does play a part.
  7. Diseased88

    Diseased88 Active Member

    Masturbation has been scientifically proven to 1) Clean out the male prostate 2) increase self-esteem and 3) relieve depressive thoughts.

    I dont wanna offend any religious people. but every person is essentially a bunch of chemicals and a spark of electricity, so there are ways to make you (biologically) feel better. But then again, there are some things about your personality that cant be chemically altered.

    bit of a tangent sorry, but point being, sexual frustration certainly can make you depressed.
  8. mike25

    mike25 Well-Known Member

    Interesting opinions. I think this topic probably affects men more than women. I think there is some kind of physical need in men, whereas women crave emotional intimacy. Maybe society affects men in this way. Being bombarded with images of attractive women, and so many things being sex orientated - I think it contributes to building a well of frustration in a mans psyche.

    Life can be so stressful, and sex is a legendary de-stressor..... but surely not the only one? It wears me out having to deal with people who have sex at the forefront of their minds 24-7. Don't get me wrong, sex between two people who love eachother is a beautiful thing. But surely, sexual relations isn't the be-all and end-all of living life.? IMHO
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  9. I'm a 24 year old male. To me, I want emotional intimacy more than I want physical intimacy. The lack of emotional intimacy is what is destroying me, at the moment.
  10. Scum

    Scum Well-Known Member

    Personally it is of no relevance to me.

    I am a virgin and in my twenties, but I don't really care. I've had my chances, but said no.

    To be honest, I don't want to let someone in that close to me. Not anymore. Maybe at one point I wouldn't have said no to having a relationship with someone, but now no one is safer.

    I do know that it does affect a lot of people. Some of my friends used to get anxious when they were virgins, or hadn't slept with someone recently, or whatever, but personally it is of little relevance to me.

    I do know that a lot of people crave some sort of emotional intimacy (as has already been said) and loneliness can also play a huge part in a lot of peoples depression, but likewise having those things and being hurt can contribute to others depression.

    This is an interesting topic because it will be different for everyone. [edited out accidental pun]
  11. Darken

    Darken Well-Known Member

    I think if difinitely does. Mating is a normal thing that we all want, like eating and sleeping and when we dont get it, it can cause problems.
  12. aloneEliza

    aloneEliza Active Member

    It's a problem with me.

    I'm very traumatized by sex, to the point of nausea and hysterical crying afterward.

    I suppose that doesn't mesh well with a boyfriend who's far from asexual.

    I know you were talking about the opposite kind of "sexual frustration", but that's my two cents.
  13. lebigmac

    lebigmac Well-Known Member

    I'm not saying I wouldn't be depressed if I was getting laid. But I sure wouldn't be as depressed as I am. Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I just lie there for a few minutes and fantasize about having a girl naked in my bed and doing stuff with her. It's constantly on my mind. I go outside, and see beautiful women everywhere. I don't even see them as people, just objects of lust. Sad but true.
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  14. Azul

    Azul Well-Known Member

    I don't really like sex, which is strange, because I'm male. I prefer "solo" for some reason. But I need "intimacy" etc. and it is indeed frustrating when you don't have that.
  15. nicesinging1

    nicesinging1 Well-Known Member

    It certainly plays great role in depression. At my age of 25, I am full of hormones and wish I had a g/f or wife to have intimate moments. Yes, there is always option of masturbation to release tensions. But it can only do so much. You get bored and you long for real intimate moments with opposite sex.
    I wish I weren't so ugly, depressed, unintelligent. I have never had g/f, let alone dating any. It feels like Darwinism playing all over and I happen to be an unfittest species.
    Actually, it is just a pain to get by/survive day in, day out. The thoughts of longing for love from opposite sex is luxury in my life.
  16. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    Masturbate that will elleviate sexual frustration. It is said that it lowers stress levels. I think if you find some healthy sexual release though i don't think it plays a huge roll in depression(just my view) you will get rid of tension...etc.
  17. brainstorm

    brainstorm Well-Known Member

    Not if you masturbate instead of going out.
    Not if you can't fantasize with someone because a) it never happened before, so your thoughts keep wandering out and b) anyway, fantasizing about people you know is taboo.
    Not if while you're masturbating to porn, you dissociate and think "that's OK, but i'll never get some of that"
    Not if after your orgasm you start crying because you're still alone in the end.

    Sexual frustration? Don't get me started on my 4 inch dick.

    And yet, it's the loneliness that's killing me.
  18. Lestat

    Lestat Well-Known Member

    I think it can play a big role in things. But it depends, if your in a relationship and then you have no contact or sex for a long time it can really effect you. Its not just sex but its being with the one you love.

    But it can also let out a lot of frustration depending on how you do it..... A lot of people get more then just the sex from having sex and it can help with other things.

    I think going through life without having sex is not a good thing as its not just about the sex but its contact and love, which as a human you need and crave even if you do not know it.
  19. $MyName

    $MyName Well-Known Member

    As many seem to have said... It's more about the love and the closeness... I don't really care about sex as such.
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