What should I tell my boyfriend?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by twilight, Nov 26, 2007.

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  1. twilight

    twilight Well-Known Member

    I have been feeling suicidal for a long time now and I know that you should probably wait to tell someone about it. I don't know how long you have to wait but my life is so painful right now I don't know who to talk to. Basically, he is the only person in my life right now that cares about me at all. I don't have any friends anymore. I give up on making friends. We don't really know each other all of that well though. We have shared a class together and we have just started seeing each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. But he seems like a nice person that cares about me. He knows that I don't really have a social life but I don't know if he realizes that it hurts me so much that it makes me want to kill myself. I don't know what to say to him to make him understand me without freaking him out.
     
  2. Blackness

    Blackness Guest

    How long have yall been dating?
    I'd say, there could be 2 outcomes to the situation.
    A. He'd freak out, would have no idea what to do, couldnt understand why, maybe neglect you?
    B. Be totally understanding, get help, work with you thorugh it...etc.

    I doubt 'B' is that realistic. I mean you said you hardly know eachother, I mean how serious is the relationship. I would probably keep quiet just for now, and see if you guys get any cloder, but yeh it might come as a big shock for him, he may even think ur attention seeking..maybe.
    You sound desperate to scream out and be heard, thats fine, and you shouldnt have to wait...it's all about finding the right person to tell. What about a school counsellor?
     
  3. wordman

    wordman Member

    well you can talk to us, for starts...

    We're your friends here, we'll listen.
     
  4. twilight

    twilight Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the reply. I know I shouldn't tell him about being suicidal, but he already knows about the lack of a social life which is really scary because he might decide that its weird and he would rather be with a more normal girl.
     
  5. Light_In_The_Dark

    Light_In_The_Dark Well-Known Member

    If he loves you he will support you! If he dont support you, we are still here for you! :hug:
     
  6. RySp123

    RySp123 Guest


    I've read many none sense but this is one of the worse. If the gentleman wishes to make her happy, he will introce her to his own circle of friends and invite her, or she can bring this up, suggest to widen their activities and possibilities to do something and meet people......

    When you love someone you DONT SUPPORT the other. You are THERE with and for the other.

    If you feel suicidal coz you lack social life, perhaps you havent given a real try at meeting new people, frequent public places offering social activities.
    Perhaps you want to try social activities where is involved your hobbies or likings or even try somehting new.... why not?

    Your boyfriend must have a circle of friends so he will introduce you to them so give it some time as things might just fall into plce on its own.

    should your bf lack social life (interesting to you) then you can discuss together activities that you two could share and develop skills, venture into new things....... together. Dance, cooking, art... whatever you like or are interested in. No need to do all things together........ so if something you like, go for it........ if some fit both, go for it as well...... so that widen your social life and meeting people possibility.

    good luck!

    p.s. the only thing you SHOULDN'T support is that feeling of non social life without trying to get out of this situation......... move, make some decision and act on them hun.

    granny xx
     
  7. Beattles

    Beattles Well-Known Member

    shit you remind me of me... except i am in fact a guy, and you are a woman.

    noone is forcing you to have/make friends. be free and be merry. its not a social responsibility to just give out ya friendship to just any momo.. but dont shut everyone out either or someone who does come along that would be a good friend wont have the chance to make you happy.
    you know how Hitler thought of Jews, homosexuals, communists, ect?
    well i think of my "friends" and the majority of people around me less than THAT. but i still dont shut them out.

    please tell him.. get him talking.. if he asks you how your day was, say "it was pretty bad" or whatever you choose.. when he asks why? say "well, i have something to confess" or somethin. thats how i did it..
     
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