Hi...for anyone who has ever come close to ending their life, what has stopped you? I know realistically that I don’t have the guts to end my life .... I just wish the pain would stop .... but man today I have been really bad off and then my husband gave me the biggest hug and I said ‘I cannot hurt this man by ending my life’.....so that stopped me. What has worked for everyone, especially any of you who have been fighting this battle for years. Thanks.....
What stops everyone
- Thread starter Hopeiseverything
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The same as your reasons - my family. I couldn't do it to them. I am very close to some family members, very distant with others and to the ones I'm close with I know it would ruin their lives if I were to take mine. I instead looked for help, sometimes the help worked, sometimes it didn't but at the end of the day my family remain at the top of my mind. I suffered to protect them from suffering.
Family members have went above and beyond to help me to get to where I am today, I'm forever grateful and we have great times these days. The suffering was worth it in the end.
I'd like to add with counselling/medication/support, I am no longer suicidal and I hope one day that will stand the same for you.
Family members have went above and beyond to help me to get to where I am today, I'm forever grateful and we have great times these days. The suffering was worth it in the end.
I'd like to add with counselling/medication/support, I am no longer suicidal and I hope one day that will stand the same for you.
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Twice I turned myself into the hospital rather than end my life. It is those two incidents I think that helped me a lot. I have a safety plan now, people I would call, people I would reach out to via letters which would take some time, breathing exercizes etc. I live by myself, I am responsible only for myself, and it would be easy just to end myself. On the other hand I also have a very close friend, I have siblings, I have daughters, all would be devastated if I ended myself. I have to add that into consideration. A pastor once said to me when I was going through separation and divorce with my wife "Whatever you do, don't kill yourself." I think he knew the turmoil I was going to go through and it was good advice.
What stops you is going to be different for everyone. I have things in my life worth living for now, and that makes all the difference. Yes, some days suck horribly. My brain is still jacked up, and I often struggle to see value in myself. The world around me feels like it's falling apart. Still I have things worth living for. I have a job that doesn't suck (most of the time). I have friends who I love dearly, and who love me back. I have a cat who depends on me to take care of her. While most of my hopes have been abandoned in the last several months, these things remain true.
A long time ago a made a promise to a friend. In that promise I said I wouldn't take any suicidal action without speaking to him first. Promises mean a lot to me. That promise stands true today. If I find myself in the middle of the night completely unable to control the thoughts, I will reach out to him. I promised I would. Not matter the time or day. Not to mention if anything were to happen to me he would be deeply hurt, and I struggle to justify ending my pain to only increase his.
A long time ago a made a promise to a friend. In that promise I said I wouldn't take any suicidal action without speaking to him first. Promises mean a lot to me. That promise stands true today. If I find myself in the middle of the night completely unable to control the thoughts, I will reach out to him. I promised I would. Not matter the time or day. Not to mention if anything were to happen to me he would be deeply hurt, and I struggle to justify ending my pain to only increase his.
I think for me it was also the choice to keep going to avoid hurting those I love that was/is the deciding factor when life gets too much. I think the more you remind yourself of the choice you made to live, and why, the stronger you become. I believe love will win and I hope your belief in it grows stronger. You've already got it in yourself and your husband loves, needs you, and wants you to be happy, as you do him.
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For me it’s my daughter and my family but strangely enough mostly my eldest daughter. We’ve been through so much together and a little while ago she asked me not to leave her. Not that she knows I’m suicidal but she knows I’m unhappy and I wonder if she was just making sure.
My therapist told me last week that she’d be devastated if I did. I spoke to her whilst standing somewhere I shouldn’t and she panicked. It was cruel of me really, to do that to her. I know my whole family would be irreparably damaged if I killed myself but it doesn’t stop me wanting to.
My therapist told me last week that she’d be devastated if I did. I spoke to her whilst standing somewhere I shouldn’t and she panicked. It was cruel of me really, to do that to her. I know my whole family would be irreparably damaged if I killed myself but it doesn’t stop me wanting to.
That is the only thing that keeps me going ... avoiding hurting the people I love. Some of the people Who love me don’t know the real shitty things I did to one family member in particular after my trauma. I have been forgiven by that person but as every one lnows on this site, I cannot forgive myself. Sometimes I feel like eventually I will snap but I keep trying every day to forgive myself.ll.just hasn’t happened yet.
Yes....I have talked to the person. It was my brother. He simply said he doesn’t care about what I did. Not sure if his wife feels the same way but who knows. Yet, deep in my core I am so disgusted with myself that I can’t forgive myself. Crazy I know. But between that and the trauma (which I am dealing with in therapy), my life is a nightmare. this has been going on for 2 years.....I need to keep at it but it is difficult.
It's sounds like he feels here was nothing to forgive you for because you weren't being yourself when you did it due to the trauma you went through. It could be that as you process the trauma with your therapist, the less you will be further traumatized by feelings of self blame and self disgust. It can take a long time to heal from trauma
