My grandfather passed away on Wednesday, and it has been difficult to cope with. The emotional toll has been hard enough, but now the circumstances surrounding his burial are just a pain in the ass. The VA explained to my mom like a year or two ago that they would take care of all of the arrangements, and that plans were not supposed to be made until after he died. Well, that turned into a giant headache. I feel like there is some fine print they failed to mention. They want us to pay $2,000 or more and we just don't have it. They never said before that we would have to pay a dime. It is bad enough that we cannot afford a funeral or to have him buried next to my grandmother. Now he may not even be interred in a military cemetery. They want to have the county claim the body and cremate him and then hold the urn somewhere unknown. We can't really proceed with anything until they sign the death certificate, and they refuse. Some place even wanted to see my grandmother's death certificate. She passed away 23 years ago. How is that even relevant to what is happening now? I am just beyond frustrated and don't even know what to do anymore.