At this time I feel it is asking to much. The comment really tore deep and made me realize how truly I am alone in this, that I cannot even depend on the help of someone who supposedly loves me, how ironic.
Hey, mpk, I was reading through your whole thread (all the replies).
Would you mind listing what state you live in? I could possibly find some resources to free mental health services. There are a lot of programs people aren't aware of out there.
As for your wife. What she said was truly awful. I'm really sorry. I'm not excusing her behavior, please don't' get me wrongly, but let me ask you a few questions: is she on any medication for lupus? Steroids could be causing a more blunt and angry reaction. Another possibility is lupus could be affecting her brain and her cognitive functions (you mention not having insurance- untreated lupus progresses, does she get treatment?) Is what she said and how she said it out of her character? I'm only coming to this conclusion because I suffer from lupus (and other brain neurological abnormalities) and know, I've said things out of fear and anger that were impulsive and I've regretted later: to the point, it's drove me to want to commit suicide (I had no control over the actions at the time).
I hope that you keep holding on and that you and your wife both get at better health and can work through this
(((hugs)))