What to do

Discussion in 'Therapy and Medication' started by mei, Jan 31, 2016.

  1. mei

    mei Active Member

    I don't know what to do.

    Where I'm from psychiatrists and other types of therapy isn't big on the market. There's none in my town or the next or the next. There are some in the main city but I can't go there since I'm still a teenager. My parents don't know that i'm on this site or that I'm having... problems? And I don't plan on letting them know.

    It may not be necessary but I'd really want to get help. I just want to get better because I don't want to feel the way I do when the days come when I feel as though my heart's sinking and dropping to my stomach and the tears don't stop.

    I'm okay today but I'd want to always be okay.

    I don't think there's anything that I can do but I'm still fishing for answers. I hope this post didn't take a lot of your time.
     
  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Hi hun, how old are you? Do you think telling your parents you are unhappy is an option right now? Maybe they will even take you to the city. I do know how you feel. I was isolated for years knowing I needed mental help but there was no one I could talk to or tell fearing they will laugh or dismiss it. Don't worry about us taking time, that's what we are here for pet :) You are free to message me anytime. I'm onlne every day! How is school going for you?
     
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  3. mei

    mei Active Member

    I just turned 16 this month. It's not an option right now. I don't know how to explain it but I know that they won't take me to the city. I've tried telling my dad before. I was just being stupid but he was right to dismiss it. School's good, tomorrow they'll announce the grades. I'm kinda excited. Wish my parents would go but they can't. I might be the on the top of my class so that's really good.

    I'm sorry for rambling.
     
  4. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    The top of your class.....wow that's amazing hun! I'm excited for you. I hope it goes as well as expected. No I don't think your dad was right to dismiss it, depression can affect people of all ages. It is crucial to get it treated as early as possible. Hmmm...do you have a school counsellor you could talk to? That'd be your best bet right now I think.
     
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  5. mei

    mei Active Member

    In my country I don't think schools have that. And it's hard to talk to people in person. I've tried that and it just made things worse. I've become such a hassle to those who I tell these things to, hahaha. I just hope I never told anyone in the first place. That person who I'm thankful to for listening I also hate for making me open up in the first place. Oh look, I'm rambling again. Still, thanks for replying. I can still cope like this so I'll just wait till I graduate or something.

    Again, thanks. REALLY REALLY. Thank you.
     
  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    *hugs* to you hun. You shouldn't have to suffer in silence or suffer alone like this. It seems so unfair, what country are you in (only f you feel like sharing)? do you have siblings?

    What do you plan to study after school? You hae a great mind set for someone your age, well done for doing so well in school. My sister is 17 and she's been suspended twice this year so far, you are so much more mature and have your wits about you.

    You are very welcome honey!
     
  7. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Do you have anyone else at school that you can reach out to? Like maybe a nurse or a teacher?
     
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  8. mei

    mei Active Member

    I'm from the Phil. Yeah I have siblings but they're the same. It's fine. I'm really okay. It comes and goes so I just focus on the days where it's gone.

    I still have two more years but I plan on taking engineering, then food tech. I want to help with my parents so I won't be a useless lump at home hahaha.

    Mature, I hope so. I try to be for reasons I'm not sure with yet. If she's anything like you (your sister) i'm sure she's great!
     
  9. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Awww thanks lol. My sister will end up having to repeat the year, She's a dosser lol
    The phil as in the Phillipines? That is so cool. Is there any teacher you could speak to about your depression, even high achieving people can be depressed, it doesn't discriminate. I hope you have a really good day at school tomorrow and just know that we are here for you no matter what!
     
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  10. mei

    mei Active Member

    Not really. And I'm sure they'll just think the same as all the rest.
     
  11. mei

    mei Active Member

    What's a dosser?

    I'm not high achieving though, I think.

    Ireland's so much cooler. I hope you have a good day too! You're a really good person.
     
  12. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    A dosser is someone who skips school lol Pretending she goes and doesn't, very immature lol
    I hope you have a good day too hun and good luck with your exams, make sure to let me know how you got on and your scores etc.. :) i'm interested :)
     
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  13. mei

    mei Active Member

    I will :D
     
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  14. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Engineering, that's what I'm studying right now. What type do you want to study?
     
  15. mei

    mei Active Member

    Mechanical, I'm really bad at electronics though. I'm worried but it's practical for the field I'm pursuing. What type are you studying?
     
  16. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    I'm studying Biomedical and Electrical engineering.
     
  17. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Are there any hotlines where you are from that you could call? (that just occurred to me)! A hotline, teacher, therapist, sibling, please talk to someone, you don't have to go right in and say ''hey, im suicidal'', you could just start by saying ''i'm not feeling too well these days'', just toning it down so it won't scare them and so it won't be so harsh on you!
     
  18. mei

    mei Active Member

    That sounds really hard.
     
  19. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Well mechanical sounds hard to me. I guess we all have different strengths. :)
     
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  20. mei

    mei Active Member

    I think I'll stick with you guys. After what happened with that person I don't think I'd want to talk to anyone in person yet. I'm sorry, even though you thought about it and all... I'm really thankful though. Besides, I think that talking to people who understand, like you guys, would be more than enough.

    It's scary when it's in person now. I just begin to shake and cry. People are scary.