What's Normal?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by MadeOfGlass, Oct 17, 2010.

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  1. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    Just wondering...but when it comes to parenting and stuff, how far is "too far"? I mean, everyone has a right to lose their cool every once in a while, but what are the normal parameters for parents to take stuff out on their kids?

    Replies would be appreciated, just trying to figure stuff out and thought other people's opinions would help.
     
  2. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    Hitting is not okay. And attacking someone emotionally isnt either. But if they are just yelling at you for doing something that goes against their rules, well I think thats okay. Still sucks tho. :hug:
     
  3. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    Nevermind. It doesn't matter.
     
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  4. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    It matters and I hear you.

    If you're feeling scared, unsafe, violated in any way and nothing is changing that is not normal.
     
  5. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    Sorry hun. :(
     
  6. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    :hug: Not your fault. I just decided not to bother anyone with it.
     
  7. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    You dont bother us. We love you and want to help you sweetie. But we cant help if you dont let us in a little right? :hug: Are your parents hurting you? :console:
     
  8. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    Yes. No. I don't know. I guess she is? She hasn't hurt me yet, I've been staying in my room all day, but I can still hear her yelling and throwing and hitting things through the walls. I've only come out when she wanted to yell at me too, or do chores. But I have to talk to her in a little bit about my grades, and I'm really really scared. She's going to be so mad, I don't want to talk to her. She usually doesn't get this scary either, I'm not really sure what happened. :nerves:

    And I didn't want to post this because I think it seems stupid when there's so much worse that she could be doing. I should just suck it up and deal. But I can't, and I feel really pathetic for it.
     
  9. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    You're terrified for good reasons.

    Does this happen a lot?
     
  10. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    Oh hunni. :console: If you dont feel safe around her do you think you could go to a friends house until she calms down?? :hug:
     
  11. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    I wish I could, but if I even asked, I know she would freak out. And say no.

    It happens pretty much every weekend, although not this bad, and a couple of times during the week she gets mad too.
     
  12. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    Does she hit you? :hug:
     
  13. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    Not often. I try and just go along and calm her down. My brother is the one who gets up in her face and argues back. So he gets hurt more than me.
     
  14. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    if you dont feel safe there i would encourage you to talk to a school counselor hun. :hug:
     
  15. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    Do you have a therapist or counsellor you could confide in? What you're going through is not normal, acceptable or okay.

    Your mother's preventing your own safety in your home, even if she's not hitting you- you do not feel safe around her.

    Does she call you names?
     
  16. MadeOfGlass

    MadeOfGlass Well-Known Member

    I should talk to someone about it, but theres a couple things that make it complicated and I can't. And yeah, she does call us names.
     
  17. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    If you want to share what makes talking difficult, I'm listening. It can be very complicated/difficult to let someone outside know what's going on :hug: You're going through so much alone. I empathise and have been in very similar situations myself.
     
  18. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    I love you sarah. I wish you would talk to someone with authority to do something. And keep posting. If you need to talk you know where to find me :hug:
     
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