What's Your Problem?

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  1. bronwyyn

    bronwyyn Well-Known Member

    In another thread, someone made a list of all the crap she was going through. I thought that might be a good idea for all of us to do. I am new here and I want to get to know everyone and what they're going through, so I feel like I can either give better advice or relate to them better. So, I'll start, and I hope everyone else will add their "shit list" as well...

    1. i have no job and no money

    2. i can't work because of physical problems and an irrational fear of having a job; I have panic attacks just thinking about working

    3. i am going through a divorce (friendly, thank God), but it means that i will lose my insurance (my ex is in the military); i need to get a lawyer to find out about military divorce and alimony, but i can't afford one

    4. i have terrible migraine headaches; I and the doctors have tried many things and the only thing that works is narcotic pain medication, which, of course, they won't give me; when my headaches are at their worst, i am vomiting and crying from the pain... i have had pain specialists tell me to my face that they don't care

    5. i have a bad knee; it hurts so bad that i can't stand or walk for more than 10 minutes without being in terrible pain; i went to the doctor and told her my whole story, she called me a "drug-seeker" and kicked me out of her office without even examining my knee!

    6. I am tired all the time, it takes great effort just to do laundry or dishes; the only thing i seem to be able to do is play on the internet or watch movies; even reading sometimes tires me out, and i have always loved to read

    7. my boyfriend has a severe hernia that limits his ability to work and he can't afford the surgery to fix it; he is just as broke as i am

    8. i went to the dentist and it turns out that i have 13 cavities and one tooth that needs to be extracted, *with* my insurance it will still cost me $700; my teeth hurt so badly and they make my headaches worse and vice versa

    9. my parents have been sending me money for my rent and utilties, but that is all and i struggle just to feed myself; they say that they are going to stop in May, that they think the are "enabling" me... they only thing they have enabled me to do is stay alive; i will kill myself if i lose my apartment, it is all i have

    10. i feel like a total piece of crap for taking people's money, but i have done it because i don't want to die and i don't know any other way to survive

    11. i owe at least $30,000 in credit card debt because i have had to live off of them for 3 years; they are all maxed out now, and i haven't been able to pay a single minimum payment in months; i get at *least* 15 calls a day from credit card companies and lawyers, which i just ignore because there's nothing i can do about it

    i'm sure there's more, but i'm out of time right now, so i will finish my list later.

    Please, everyone, post your list so we can get to know each other. :smile:
  2. dazzle11215

    dazzle11215 Staff Alumni

    interesting thread. i don't really define myself as the sum of my problems, although they are many.... here's my list, though, for what it's worth

    1. artist and photographer
    2. battling depression, made a recent suicide attempt... so there's everything that goes with that... lack of confidence, poor self-esteem, tendencies to self-harm
    3. canadian in ireland
    4. punk-rock martha stewart ie love to cook, decorate, host parties...


  3. itmahanh

    itmahanh Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    Great idea, but hun don't think the forum would allow me to post all mine. Take up too much space!!! If I had to put one it would be ...me. I am my own biggest problem. But yeah, sorta like journalling, it can help so much just to see your problems put out in print and then you can start to pick them off one by one.
  4. Hurted

    Hurted Well-Known Member

    Im really sorry for all of you...
    Probaly you meant me, i made thread about it... however it was really boring and too long, i will wright things here, very short of course...

    1.) Depression
    2.) Unhappy love which is killing me and always leading into depression
    3.) Problems with anxiety (Expecially Panic attacks)
    4.) No real friends
    5.) Around 1579 other things, which arent worth mentioning...
  5. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    anorexia. trauma. people.

    My eating disorder isn't voluntary anymore. It's got to the stage of being completely overwhelming and out of my control when I can't cope with my feelings. When I'm overwhelmed with feelings or anxiety- it straight goes into not eating. I'm scared of deterioating again. I'm so scared of being sick physically again.
  6. lachrymose

    lachrymose Account Closed

    i am 23 years old. and these are my problems:

    - no job, income... have to look for work soon but i am afraid of it
    - some anxiety, which i have been workign on and going well.
    - living alone but still dependent on parents, i really don't want to anymore, i feel so pathethic doing so
    - no friends, but have been trying to open myself up more and not isolate myself from people
  7. hammockmonkey

    hammockmonkey Well-Known Member

    self destruction is my modis operandi.

    i make some friends, then blow up. self destruct

    women . . . . well you pretty ladies . . .

    get an okay job, and self destruct that too

    i just want to know why. why i do it.
  8. downnout

    downnout Well-Known Member

    I'm 23...

    -not fit for the 'real world' at all
    -can't get out of my mom's house
    -extreme social anxiety/awkwardness
    -clinical depression/panic disorder
    -family stufy...
    -real intimacy issues

    probably a lot of other things
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  9. downnout

    downnout Well-Known Member

    ---------- for some reason my comp is posting twice.
  10. bronwyyn

    bronwyyn Well-Known Member

    Wow... I could have written this myself, except I'm 28 :hiding:.

    Do you know why you're afraid of work? I am so horribly terribly afraid of it, but I'm not entirely sure why that is.
  11. Random

    Random Well-Known Member


    1. I have epilepsy that is only just barely controlled by medication. I'm taking a pretty large dose of the medication already. And it's a med that is known to cause liver problems. I've been taking it for about 15 years. When I have seizures, I have, perhaps, 15 seconds of warning before I black out. That usually isn't enough to do anything. And sometimes, just the "aura" of the seizure coming on is enough to confuse me to the point to where I actually can't do anything. The most I can do is try and lay down on something soft and hope I don't injure myself too badly.

    My parents (who I live with) are fairly understanding as far as parents go but they don't really understand what it's like to walk around knowing you could pass out and do a header through a plate glass window or down a flight of stairs or into a slab of concrete pretty much anytime. I don't really know what to do. What kind of work can you really do when you have that kind of risk factor going on? I usually bang myself up badly enough if it happens when I'm in bed. I could die if it happened when I was out and about.

    I tell them this but they don't listen. They just come back with BS like "Well, this guy is blind and he doesn't let that stop him".

    Well, I'm sorry but being epileptic is not the same thing as being blind or crippled or deaf. Those people still have full control over their minds and they don't have to worry about completely losing control over all their faculties at any given moment. Even if their disability puts them in a dangerous situation, they still have control over their mind. They can probably still do something. They can call for help. They know what's going on. They're not unconscious.

    When I have seizures, I usually become combative and uncooperative with anyone who's trying to help because I'm in some kind of weird place between conscious and unconscious and I don't understand what is happening. I'm frightened and confused and in pain and I just want to be left alone. This has resulted in the police being called on a couple of occasions because the people around me didn't know what was happening. The cops thought it was drugs or something so they weren't exactly polite of gentle as they should have been with someone who was having a seizure. I try to communicate but it all comes out jumbled.

    2. My epilepsy is not considered bad enough to get disability. It puts up a major psychological obstacle but that isn't something that can be seen or measured. They go more by how many seizures you have. I don't have many but I never know when they're going to happen.

    3. My medication causes mental confusion. I can't work out complex math problems or anything else really complicated. My memory is shot to hell. It's also very expensive. About $100 for a ten day supply.

    4. I just have no motivation. Even if I was willing to risk working, I wouldn't want to. Of course, that's no excuse. Or at least, it isn't an excuse that people will buy. They'll just call you lazy and kick you while you're down.

    5. I have some sort of social phobia. Not really bad but bad enough to make me want to stay indoors all the time and never go anywhere unless I absolutely have to.

    6. I'm inherrently shy. I don't like meeting new people. And if someone pisses me off, I'm generally done with them. I don't like to be betrayed or emotionally or psychologically hurt. And if somebody does it deliberately, I won't trust them again.

    7. I see my life as pretty pointless. I can't stand myself. I understand perfectly why I am the way I am but there's simultaneously nothing I can do about it.
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  12. SAVE_ME

    SAVE_ME Well-Known Member

    Here are mine, in no particular order:

    1) College dropout
    2) No job
    3) Low self-esteem
    4) GF lives half-way across the world
    5) Constant fights and arguments with family members, on the verge of being kicked out onto the streets
    6) Can't talk to my parents like I used to anymore...they just think all this is an excuse for laziness
    7) No friends in RL
    8) I've lost the motivation to get up off my ass and do anything anymore
    9) Lost interest in the things I used to enjoy (Art, walking, school, writing, music, playing video games)
    10) I'm overweight and unattractive
    11) Social anxiety
    12) The depression that comes with it all

    There's probably more but this is all I can think of right now.
  13. downnout

    downnout Well-Known Member

    I forgot to add to the list that I'm guillible, have no boundaries and have just spent the past 10 days or so in surrealism.
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  14. Asari Attar

    Asari Attar Active Member

    So many more a while ago, I almost need two lists.

    I've lived most of my life as a bit of an outcast. I had no -real- friends until the last few years of high school.
    The 6 years before I got out of the house I lived in almost constant emotional pain.
    The last 4 of those the pain combined with rage.
    I've had houses (separated parents), but never a home.

    Back then it was all dark.

    Now I'm in college. I have a boyfriend. He brought me back to life, but he's such a child right now. He doesn't understand. He does things, and I try to explain that he's killing me again, and the only thing that happens is I finally can't take it any more, I snap, and then he realizes that something's wrong. Of course the first thing he does is snaps at me to get over it. Then he walks away for a while. Then he comes back all repentant.
    The thing is I love him.
    I've been in the dark, and I've been in the light. I really don't want to go back to the dark, but it hovers there.
    Wrong school. Wrong major.

    I'm working to straighten it out.
  15. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    I forget to eat :dry:
  16. Asari Attar

    Asari Attar Active Member

    If I go a day or two on cafeteria food I do that too....made me loose 20 lbs in 2 terms of college.

    ^'cause I don't know how to do smiles proper-like.
  17. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    Yeah I used to just not eat when I was at school. And certain food, like that cafeteria stuff you mention just isn't enough. I don't think I concentrate on my body much as in "I feel hungry I should eat." My mind is always somewhere else.
  18. everybodyhurts

    everybodyhurts Active Member

    I'm depressed
    I've tried to O/D
    My daughter was groomed on the net
    Paedo's get away with whatever they want
    I'm comfort eating which makes me depressed
    I hate myself
    I really wish I was dead
  19. x.R.x

    x.R.x Well-Known Member

    To sum it up:

    - ever since I was born it's been 1 problem after the next
    - I've had 4 different 'families', yes 4 completely different (that's all I'll say on that matter though)
    - bad family problems...really really bad
    - growing up around drugs, violence
    - a few people very close to me died in a short space of time
    - I'm now depressed, was suicidal
    - had to leave college cos I am, so I guess that means no friggin A levels
    - my family thinks I'm 'wrong in the head' because I'm depressed
    - my mum tells everyone she sees, and I can't stand it
    - been completely used, now I've got a big decision to make
    - insomnia
    - stressed 24/7

    and I won't even put the rest down :mellow:
  20. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    ocd(i think)
    i have no friends at all
    thats about it at the moment
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