for the past couple years i have been considering cutting all contact with a friend of mine. in sorT the reason is because it seems like i am expected to give in the relationship no matter what while he can take all he wants and only gives when it is something he enjoys. long version for the past few years i have been considering cutting all contact with the people i know once i get in to a suitable position. this would include even the people i enjoy being around. about a year ago this friend became the one person i know i have to get rid of. my reasoning for this is that he stabbed me in the back over a very small issue for which there was no reason to do so. the issue involved me having a good opportunity to take advantage of another person. i could have easily gotten away with it and i asked him for advice and his response was to not do it. i listened to him and about a week later we were at the bar for a welcome back party. at the bar the subject came up and several guys said i should have gone with it. their response did not bother me in the least until my friend did a complete 180 and agreed with them and went further than they did with the rude jokes. normally that wouldn't bother me except that he just obviously stabbed me in the back. out of the group of 8 people the only one that was on my side was the military police officer back from korea. other things he has done involved offering me a place to sleep so that i could help him move and then revoking the offer. i ended up staying with my aunt the next town over. one time i went to him during one of my suicidal episodes and he basically said he couldn't help and ended contact with me for a few days. to be fair though we men are horrible when it comes to dealing with emotions and i would expect the something similar from most guys. there have been other times when i have wanted to discuss my annoying life only to be cut right off. yet when he starts complaining other people are expected to list. i got my desk top back from him Saturday after 6 months. he said he would install his old graphics card in it. i got the computer back last week and the tape i used to close the box hadn't even been broken. the procedure would take him only a few minutes to do. my old roommate told me how to do it earlier today so its all hooked up now. there was a lot of BS in high school which is to be expected. and its not just me he wont do stuff for. female friend of mine asked him to pick up an old movie for her that her husband has always wanted as a Christmas present. after 3 years she asked me and her husband finally got the damn movie. he is basically a inconsiderate jackass. the only reason i can see to keep him around is possible as a character reference when i apply for a federal job after college.