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When people are down and alone during the holidays

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by ToHelp, Dec 25, 2008.

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  1. ToHelp

    ToHelp Well-Known Member

    [duck for language]

    The bitch of it all is this. You survive this fucking shit, which starts in September now prepping for Halloween and then hell, you've only got a good nine more months before the commercialism engine revs up again.

    The loner suffers his fate for 3, definitely 2 sad months Every. Year.

    You know we could all be rightfully christened a bunch of Scrooges on SF. I'm shocked at the similarity in myself and the character sometimes.

    Maybe some of y'all have heard of The Bah-Humbug Clubs springing up in many places now. lol The overwhelmingly sad fact is there is truth in some element of Scrooge for many of us.

    Was talking with a materially well-endowed person yesterday who could stop complaining about "all the irritating relatives around her," whom (when pried) nonetheless admitted to loving. Not that I'd wish my life on anyone but: Would that she were accursed for ONE SEASON in my shoes.

    My God, the things people find to complain about and their abject oblivion to the plight of people like us. It boggles the mind and brings about dry heaves.

    Shit there ain't got to be no Hell proper. Earth here will do just fine in its stead. :no:

  2. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    I think its better for families to go out to eat on Christmas day rather then go to someones house, but that's just me. Christmas dosn't have to be anything major it can be low key. I spent Christmas alone but am going to visit others over the next few days for it.

    As most people don't identify themselves as christian anymore it loses is religious flavor but as a western holiday it is still somewhat important, I don't think the alternative festivase (aka Seinfeld) is very interesting.

    The Festivase for the rest of us!
  3. ToHelp

    ToHelp Well-Known Member

    Forgot to say that I was struck by her remark, "these months are my faaaavorite time of the year!" just after I'd been saying how cruel the time is for people like me who have no one.

    I'm not damning the holidays nor happy people but for Pete's SAKE, I can't get my head around all the Christians and the rest of these... happy people! who, caught up in their own merriment and family, forget to reach out to those whom they *know* are down, out, and alone.

    By all means Mightbe, I think it's grand that you are content and have others to go see. (/sarcasm)

    :poke: ToHelp
  4. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    The hypocrisy of Christmas continues. :badday:

    I hate this fucking holiday.

    But people who ignore the down and out are people I don't want to be around. So let them eat ham or whatever it is. I went to a psychiatric hospital two weeks ago. I got three Christmas calls.

    But I'm not reciprocating the whole Christmas thing either...so maybe I'm the jerk :)

    I don't know.

  5. ToHelp

    ToHelp Well-Known Member

    I like your openness James. Far from perfect, I often sing from the rooftops on this very forum that WE are ultimately responsible for ourselves in life.

    As such it is also upon us, yes even the downtrodden, to ask help, reach out, speak up, do what we can to be around others.

    Depression (my affliction) and other mental disorders can make this exceedingly tough. So where lieth the ultimate solution? Why there is none (that is, there is no ONE). I posit the solutions to our misery are fluid, dynamic, and demanding of flexibility.

    Since I just lost half my audience there ( :laugh: ) translation: We must at the very least TRY. Sound sensible?

    This entire year though, depression has befallen me like never before and I am going some days without eating. I am practically agoraphobic now in that I do not get but to get groceries.

    Said it before: I actually DON'T ponder the sui-cui thing. Don't want to die. But MAN am I ever sick (weakened, frighted) and the recovery out of this will be a long climb up.

    The spooky thing? I never saw it coming this time last year.

    Did nothing to precipitate it. We just started juggling those fucking drugs and man was THAT was a bad idea because ever since (about a year) me & doc began to shift the ADs, nothing ever stabilized for me.

    I give to you a consummate example of medical treatment just gone BAAAD. But I'll climb back out because I'm not on here to die. Life being the puzzle it is, things will get better with lots of work. I just have this inner "knowing" about that. Way too early for me baby.

  6. wastedmylife

    wastedmylife Well-Known Member

    Cuz holidays are a bunch of crap, just a ficticious superstitious thing to make us feel good about ourselves but in reality we feel worse, just pure garbage, the only thing that matters is here and now
  7. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    I hate christmas more than any other holiday. It's soo overcommercialized.
  8. ToHelp

    ToHelp Well-Known Member


    Ahh but capitalism drives our very economy. Without capitalism there would be FAR LESS reason for the season and we if barred Black Friday for just ONE YEAR it would make for a fascinatng sociological experiment.

    And getting a nice 50-inch HDTV!!! :barmy:
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