Which bothers you most? your past, present or future?

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which bothers you most?

  1. past

    17 vote(s)
  2. present

    6 vote(s)
  3. future

    23 vote(s)
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  1. in heaven

    in heaven Well-Known Member

    which part of your life does most of the pain come from?

    your past?
    regret or unpleasant memories - e.g. bad childhood, something you did or something someone else did to you,

    your present?
    having a hard time in current situation, e.g. current situation of school, work, family, relationship, health, money

    your future?
    worrying about your future, e.g., fear of not being able to survive by yourself, fear of being alone
  2. Moat

    Moat Banned Member

    I do not tend to think about the future all that much. I like to live in the here and now and save the future for when it happens. As for the past, well, I dwell on some aspects of it, what I could have done differently (et cetera) but mostly, if there is something that I cannot use from my past to help me in the present, then I rather not think of it.
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  3. foreverforgotten

    foreverforgotten Well-Known Member

    future...it eats me alive.
  4. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Writer, Musician, Fun Lover, Magic Maker

    The past, because that's where most of my trauma comes from. I know I can always change the present and future, but the memories of the past will haunt me forever.
  5. Timewarp

    Timewarp Active Member

    All three bother me to one degree or another.

    My past bothers me because even though I didn't have a very good childhood, the good moments that transpired were very good indeed. I miss those good moments and my childhood friends, whom have all changed so drastically we grew apart as strangers and stopped talking after awhile. The nostalgia is so overpowering at times I get misty eyed and seriously depressed remembering what I can never have again.

    My present bothers me because I am in a deep rut and there seems to be no way to dig myself out of it. Things seem particularly bleak. I have no job, literally only one friend, my family dislikes me and there just seems to be no end to the pain and depression and uncertainty.

    Which brings me to my future where I worry constantly that if I don't get employed soon, there's a very good chance I'll wind up on the streets. I couldn't handle that and the very though makes me quake with mortal terror.
  6. Brighid Moon

    Brighid Moon Member & Antiquities Friend

    The past, because of traumas, because of losses, because of bad decisions, because of lack of information and support.

    The present because I can't seem to fix it no matter what I do, and not for lack of trying.

    The future because I'm afraid of it mimicking the past, or worse.
  7. ShadyGrey

    ShadyGrey Account Closed

    The past bothers me the most because i always think "what if i had done it this way..." "If i had only...".

    The present bothers me a little but tis can all be changed because...

    The future can be whatever i want it to be and therefore it does not bother me in a negative way
  8. Stripe

    Stripe Well-Known Member

    If there was an "All of the Above" option I would have picked that. There are things in the past I wish I could have changed and there is the future which I seem largly powerless to change and then there is the present that basically sucks balls.
  9. Adon

    Adon Member

    There should be an all of above option, I would pick that one.
  10. Big M

    Big M Well-Known Member

    hahahahah yes all of the above. There are things I REALLY hate about my past and always want to change, they still eat away at me. The present is so-so but I don't dwell on it like I do the past and the future. The future is probably my biggest problem. I fear it everyday.
  11. in heaven

    in heaven Well-Known Member

    I voted the future bothers me most.
    If it's is a pie chart, it would be 50% Future, 25% past, 25% current

    If my future is fine I think I will be able to let go of my past but I don't feel well enough in the present to get to a good future.
  12. NiceGuYKC

    NiceGuYKC Well-Known Member

    Well most of my current problems, were caused a long time ago in the past. I suppose the future bothers me the most, because I don't have a future.
  13. Moat

    Moat Banned Member

    Everyone has a future, it is just that it is unknown to us for the obvious reason that we cannot see what will happen tomorrow in life, the same as we cannot see what is around the next corner of a street you are walking down. I suppose that is why so many people are afraid of the future and of change, of not having any control of what might happen. The best way I have ever learnt to deal with it (but not limited to it) is simply to leave in this very second and do not worry about anything, because worrying has no purpose whatever and only serves to make your life in the present that much more miserable.
  14. FrainBart

    FrainBart Staff Alumni

    I guess past is what bothers me the most. Mostly because its happened, and there is nothing I can do to change those events. The past has also shaped me into who I am today, which I do not like myself... I detest myself.

    The present doesnt really bother me too much because as long as I get through each day and make it so that my past has much lighter memories then perhaps it would ease the pain of things that will remain unchangeable.

    the future is of no bother to me because I can near enough choose my future. I can make it as bright as I want it, if I put myself into it fully...

    Yet the more the negative past festers the more the future darkens.
  15. Aphorism

    Aphorism Well-Known Member

    The future. I'm scared it's going to be the same as the past and the present; just mostly me, unhappy, unable to see the point in things. I don't know. And constantly, I feel overwhelmed by the things that are required of me. I constantly feel out of control, and I am afraid that's a feeling I'll never be able to escape.
  16. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I'd have to say my future, as I am still relatively young and likely have many years ahead of me (barring suicide).

    My future terrifies me because of all the mistakes in my past. Maybe not mistakes, but instead lack of action, not doing things in the past that could have greatly helped me in the future like building many skills (especially social). Instead, I have isolated myself for so long and continue to do so.

    There is no way I can get a girlfriend and/or wife. I will never have a well paying job or career. I will likely have no friends and soon lose my only friend I've known for many years as we may drift apart. I am also afraid of my younger brother drifting apart if he moves out of our home and makes his own life. I am worried of my aging parents and me having to watch as they slowly but surely age and wither and pass away. But unlike many others, I'll lack a support system such as friends and loved ones to give me comfort and support.

    I will most likely die poor and alone. :(
  17. GreyCat

    GreyCat Well-Known Member

    they are all bothersome in their way. the futures the worst because I am afraid of no longer being able to function in the world(work, socialise etc)
  18. In Limbo

    In Limbo Forum Buddy

    The future - I'm reconciled with the past - if I could go back in time and do it over - I wouldn't. The future by definition is scary - I know myself well enough to know that I'll cause myself enough trouble to keep life interesting...
  19. Viro

    Viro Well-Known Member

    The present.

    I can see the positive side of my past. It hasn't been entirely miserable. I can force myself to think of the happy times to keep myself gong through the dreary misery of my daily existence.

    And in the future, I'll be free. So I'm looking forward to that. Just not "tomorrow". Years away. It's complicated, but I need to think this way to find the strength to keep going.
  20. BandAid

    BandAid Member

    My past is my present because I relive it everday. I couldn't tell you the houses I pass every day to work, but I can see my patrol routes in Iraq so clearly. Some days, It will dawn upon me that I have been back 2 years, yet I don't remember anything in between. As for the future, I don't think about it much, but I hope that one day I will be free of my own mind.
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