which is harder....

Discussion in 'The Coffee House' started by absolution, Apr 12, 2010.


Which is harder?

  1. Loving Someone

    23 vote(s)
  2. Hating Someone

    18 vote(s)
  3. I dont know

    6 vote(s)
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  1. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    which is harder???
  2. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    I've never hated anyone. But loving is hard, I'd imagine it's harder.
  3. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    never???? o_O
  4. Tobes

    Tobes Well-Known Member

    I think loving is harder because you need effort to keep it going, whereas with hate you don't (usually).
  5. NoGood

    NoGood Well-Known Member

    I think its harder to hate someone especially when you love them. You want so badly to hate them so you dont care but you do care.
  6. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    No... Closest I've gotten is jealousy or anger, I suppose.
  7. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    whats your secret? :)
  8. stevs2

    stevs2 Active Member

    Love is harder. Hate can be one way. One of the facets of love is hoping for a return on your "investment". If it's not returned, Love is a terrible burden.
  9. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure. I can forgive everyone but me.
  10. Marshmallow

    Marshmallow Staff Alumni

    loving someone ..... by far.
  11. friendless

    friendless Well-Known Member

    They say in order to truly hate someone, at one time you had to have loved them. So, love is harder to keep going because you have to look the other way when they hurt you and sometimes giving/loving is one-sided.
  12. necrodude

    necrodude Well-Known Member

    hating someone must be the hardest, because hatred is destructive and must be controlled. unless it's me i hate
  13. frostbitten1997

    frostbitten1997 Account Closed

    Loving someone.Its even harder of they dont love back
  14. bluegrey

    bluegrey Antiquities Friend

    Loving someone. Maintaining a loving relationship takes patience, empathy, generosity, leaving yourself vulnerable and sometimes more sacrifice than you ever knew you could be capable of. Hate comes naturally for most people.
  15. boo

    boo Well-Known Member

    Loving someone is much much harder. Especially after a long period of time, because initial crush is gone.
  16. mdmefontaine

    mdmefontaine Antiquities Friend

    love is more difficult, in my opinion, because there is so much risk, so much at stake, so much to lose.

    if you hate, your heart cannot be broken further, if you love, you are open and waiting, for the inevitable heartbreak.

    everything has a shelf life, just my own experience. life feels more free, more easy, for me if i don't love,
    yet it is so amazing to me, when i do allow myself to love.

    always, the double-edged sword..............
  17. Viro

    Viro Well-Known Member

    I live on hatred. It is both my nourishment and my drug.
  18. Perfect Melancholy

    Perfect Melancholy SF Friend

    Hate is a wasted emotion, but love and hate are the opposite ends of the same pole, you cannot help loving someone so neither is easier as they come naturally.
  19. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Eccentric writer, general weirdo, heedless heathen

    loving someone, because they don't always love you back...
  20. Arnica

    Arnica Guest

    Loving someone.
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