To have loved and lost or To never have loved at all? Which is worse? This is the question many men and women ask themselves after a relationship has ended and even sometimes before one begins. So really, is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved? When it comes to matter of the heart people are myopic in their pursuit of happiness, whether it is love, money, or success in life. Once you are introduced to something new (love) it is hard to return to your old (love less) life. Well, imho i rather never have loved at all. It changed my life for the worse. meh!