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who dont have a girlfriend/boyfriend here since birth?

asking_advice

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#1
who dont have a girlfriend/boyfriend here since birth? and how old are you?

who dont have a girlfriend/boyfriend here since birth? and how old are you?
 
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Mr Stewart

Well-Known Member
#3
:hiya:

27.

By choice. Not by circumstance. I'm fine with it. I think I might be able to manage a pen pal at some point if the mood struck just right. Pen and paper, snail delivery style. Internet is too fast.
 

TheBLA

The biggest loser ever to live.
#4
Myself, I am turning 24 tomorrow. I suppose it is both choice and circumstance.
I know that I am not good enough for anyone out there. I have ruined my life in my internet and video-game addiction for instance. Thus, I also don't try in actively looking for one either. Nobody would want to go for someone as damaged and broken as myself, unless there is a girl out there just like me.
 

klodo

Well-Known Member
#5
Me, 43. If you don't have a strong sex drive and are male then its easy to stay a virgin until you die. You just dont go chasing females and they never chase you first. Loneliness is far worse than being a virgin to be honest. However, our entire culture is based on relationships and families so its hard to get by let alone become successful so you survive by becoming a total recluse. How do you even have a group of close friends when they are all doing normal family things and you are alone?
 

Mr Stewart

Well-Known Member
#6
How do you even have a group of close friends when they are all doing normal family things and you are alone?
In my case, you don't. Full stop. Granted, the reason I have never had a relationship is because I have no interest, either sexual or platonic, in that type of socialization. I have noticed as I get older that faking normalcy for the emotional benefit of my parents and siblings has become harder. In my early 20's when I was putting myself through university, it was very easy to lie about supposed social things I did, how healthy and stable and bright my future was. How happy I was and how optimistic and carefree, how I never wanted to kill myself oh no not ever I couldn't possibly think such a thing. Now, it's difficult. I don't lie anymore. I just don't say anything. To hell with their prodding questions and concerned vocal inflection. Only one family member lives in the same city, thankfully.

Sorry. Nevermind me.
 
#7
Me. 16. Not by choice. Probably just because I'm cowardly and self-pitying.

However I don't think it's always a bad thing. I'm incredibly self-sufficient, self-reliant blah blah blah. Every cloud, y'know?
 

gakky1

Well-Known Member
#10
Me, 43. If you don't have a strong sex drive and are male then its easy to stay a virgin until you die. You just dont go chasing females and they never chase you first. Loneliness is far worse than being a virgin to be honest. However, our entire culture is based on relationships and families so its hard to get by let alone become successful so you survive by becoming a total recluse. How do you even have a group of close friends when they are all doing normal family things and you are alone?
Excellent way of phrasing it, I'm almost 100% like that too and about the same age as you, I've totally given up now on not being alone forever, so depressing it is to think of a whole lifetime of being alone.:zombie:
 

klodo

Well-Known Member
#11
Excellent way of phrasing it, I'm almost 100% like that too and about the same age as you, I've totally given up now on not being alone forever, so depressing it is to think of a whole lifetime of being alone.:zombie:
Yes, I also dont like the way that many people think you deserve or chose this lifestyle. Others do anything they can to start a family and often become very despressed if thay can't have children and it affects their whole lives. I have to face the fact that I am certain to never have a family and yet am not even allowed to feel sorrow(again because its supposedly my own fault).Its like I am secretly mourning the family I can never now have and yet have to keep the whole thing quiet.
 

chewbacca

Well-Known Member
#12
26

goddamn. what should be do point of going on when I know I cant be with anyone? I mean... is that too pathetic a goal? to have someone close around? to..... umm touch a girl? hahaha
I kind of hate/am scared of girl/woman cause 99.99999999999999999999999999999% of them are morons anyway, but there are a couple of nice ones out there... but what do you fucking do when you're a fucking socio/psychopath and actually scared to death that you're (still) a human being. why should I go 'heal' myself.... why should I try to go on.... this pile of shit that makes me wanna kill myself just keeps on getting thicker and thicker and I really don't know why I shouldn't kill myself. why. why? why? why. tell me. why.
 
#13
me me me me. i'll be 24 in two months. i feel like a freak about it most of the time. but apparently there are lots of us. all living under rocks as it seems.
now sex is scary and weird and funny. i want to have some so bad.
 

daelyn

Well-Known Member
#17
24, i miss a relationship
if u miss a relationship then u shouldnt have put that on thisthread because it is for people who have nevr been involved in a relationship..................................................like me....oh yea btw, im 15
 
#18
if u miss a relationship then u shouldnt have put that on thisthread because it is for people who have nevr been involved in a relationship..................................................like me....oh yea btw, im 15
they can post here if they want :unsure: and i think you might find that the member meant that they missed not ever having a relationship...
 

pppqp

Well-Known Member
#19
27 here.

Being in a relationship is the best way to put suicide thoughts aside, or even to get rid of them forever if you happen to find your 'right' one. At least three people I know suddenly switched from extremely depressed and suicidal to exceedingly in high spirit when they were in love :dry:
 

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