i was with her for 7 years. she sexually molested me the first two. i'm a woman btw. she actually said she raped me but i can remember actually soothing her, i was so fucking unwell and saying it didn't matter. there was also emotional, financial shit going on that i dont' want to go there because it's too much to process at the moment. i didn't know cos i've been severely dissociated a lot of my life and living in half death for 7 yrs with her. i broke up with her last february because i was processing the first two years and wanted to talk about what had happened- i was healing. she didn't and wanted to "get on with her life," and viewed me as a liability an obstacle in her career and Goals. it was decided she was to fuck off and go ahead. i was very ill recovering with anorexia at the time, she showed little concern, and when i broke off with her, my recovery accelerated, showing what effect she had on my life. when i told her verbally in jan 09, i want to leave you she said "she'll think about it." she also muttered, before this, "how long will that last?" in feb 09, when i asked her in a phone call, after a month of no contact from myself, what kinda gf would say when her gf wanted to break up with her "i'll think about it," she said "i didn't say that." i blew up at her and told her to not contact me again. i have had no contact for a year, because the relationship ended with that phone call in feb 09. she emailed me last month, 11 months later, asking for a list of things she wanted back. fair enough. she also forwarded me 30 photographs she took of me when i was deep in an eating disorder (anorexia) and depressed, suicidal, a mess. i am now recovered and look very different, very confident, sure of myself i felt sick and told her i didn't ask for those photos. she said "you asked for them more than once." i said "i asked for many things more than once that was a different time of my life." i then made sure she was to see me when she retrieved her old stuff. she assumed i'd be hiding and wanted my relatives to open the door for her. she had to see me , and how well i was. how i looked. she didn't talk. she looked so scared of me, and was cringing and looked like she wanted to run away from me. then she emailed me after saying "sorry, i just thought those photos would tie things up once and for all, sorry for sending them, i won't contact you again now." this is a YEAR after i said i LEFT her. what was she thinking??