Why Can't I Do It?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by flayflow, Aug 24, 2008.

  1. flayflow

    flayflow Well-Known Member

    Im Starting to get annoyed with myself and so is my boyfriend. According to my bf im to open when we're having sex.apparently there is alot of space inside, im to loose which means i dont feel alot and it means i can't come. We do foreplay but still has no effects. I can't cum during penatration and its getting to the both of us. He's not keen on the odea of using a vibe

    do you have any idea's on what might be wrong or ways that might help?
  2. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    The fact is, the majority of women do not climax during vaginal sex. Don't let your bf convince you it's because you're too "loose" or some bullshit like that. If he's not getting the job done, then tell him to put his ego aside and bust out a vibrator. Tell him to Google the word "clitoris".
  3. soliloquise

    soliloquise Well-Known Member

    brilliant answer and so true. what an arse !
  4. flayflow

    flayflow Well-Known Member

    yeah helpful ¬_¬
  5. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni

    are you attracted to him? have you had bad sexual experiences in the past?
  6. Izziebabystar

    Izziebabystar Well-Known Member

    faye i know a way you can fix that so :p
    why didnt you just ask me silly

    basicaly the usual position is woman with her legs open yes. . .
    well when he penertrates move your position so your legs are closed and his are open. its tighter and more peasureable :p
  7. Satine

    Satine Member

    ^^ I whole heartedly agree with what's already been said. There is something of a myth of a) the penis being the almighty satisfier, and b) women being able to climax from penetration. In missionary position the penis simply doesn't strike against the right parts, ie., the front wall of the vagina.

    Part of our evolution - the part that set us standing on our hind legs - moved our hips around so that our centre of pleasure is now rather more difficult to get at than it once was, so unfortunately for us women, sex is a bit of a hammed-up affair.

    The solution to this is to recognise that the area you want stimulated is buried between the front wall of the vagina and behind the clitoris. If you ask me, it's well worth discovering and good luck if you do!
  8. Iorek89

    Iorek89 Member

    are u attracted to him...
    could be the key thing

    also have u got nething on ur mind that you want to tell him?
    anxiety or your stress can also have a factor on this
  9. Summer.Rain

    Summer.Rain Well-Known Member

    Have you considered trying something more exciting then a misinory position?
    From what i know, "Doggy Style" is the position with the deepes penitriation
    "69" is the most controllble positions as you can 100% controll the way
    you setisfy your partner, Oral is somelike 69 but one sided.
    There are sex toys and outer simulants such as pornographic movies
    all of which can make your sex life much richer.
    In worse case scenario you can buy a "Kama Sutra" book
    Good Luck
  10. wibble

    wibble Well-Known Member

    Please dont take this the wrong way hun, but your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a douche for saying that to you. If he isnt doing the job right, or he isnt man enough for it, its not your fault.

    There are dozens of websites you can try for advice on positions and technique. As others have said, all that might be needed is a small change in how HE does things.
  11. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    Anastasia put it best.

    Also tell him to not say things that you're loose and all that BS. Has he actually tried loving you while trying to make you cum?

    Also if you find it difficult to cum through penetration maybe try rubbing your clit /touching yourself all over, (does he do that or is he just there just....doing his thing and rolling off you?)

    It's not your fault you're not finding this enjoyable. I wouldn't either. Don't feel like there's anything wrong with you.
  12. xan

    xan Chat Buddy

    Just by sorta grinding, like you would having dry sex (with clothes on), you can get better external stimulation if you're not very sensative internally...
  13. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    Why don't you experiment on yourself and see what you like. That way you can tell your BF what you like, how you like to be touched etc and not leave it up to him to act like a blind fool and talk about your vagina being too loose :rolleyes:.
  14. Entoloma43

    Entoloma43 Well-Known Member

    This is a suicide forum, not a sex advice forum.
  15. LastCrusade

    LastCrusade Well-Known Member

    well, people get depressed over various reasons. some people get depressed if they can't come :)