Why is a men's desire for a woman called dirty if unwanted, but it's a measure of love otherwise? It's the same feeling, the same unstoppable feeling, but it gets tarred with a different brush if the woman doesn't see you as a sexual possibility. I live. I breathe. I want. Unfortunately, because I can't get. But I refuse to accept that this is dirty. Why is wanting to put my arms around a girl's waist dirty, or to kiss her shoulder, or to blow on her ear, or to count her freckles, or to trace her spine with a fingernail, or to feel the fuzz on her face when it glows under a backlight. But oh no, not even "he looks at me in a dirty way". It's "He's dirty."