I am 20 years old, and I've never had a girlfriend. Every now and then, I meet a girl who is really wonderful, and I become infatuated with her. When she's not around, I spend a lot of time thinking about her, and when she is around, I pay a lot of attention to her and treat her as well as I can. But after awhile, the girl just gradually fades out of my life. If I try to draw her back in, she just avoids me. Eventually she just ignores me completely, sometimes tells me not to contact her again. What am I doing wrong? Is it a crime to admire a girl, appreciate her, and want to be closer to her? I've never forced myself on a girl or made strong advances or even flirted. I just make eye contact, smile a lot, and ask her questions about herself if there's nothing else to talk about. I tell her that I really appreciate her friendship and company, but I never go out of my way to bug her to spend more time with me. I try to do everything with tact and consideration, and to never say anything that could be taken the wrong way. I don't contact her more than once or twice a week, and I never go snooping around to learn every detail of her past. What am I doing wrong? When I like a girl, I really like her. I'm happy to have met her, I'm proud to be near her, I feel lucky everytime she looks my way. But whenever a girl finds out that I like her - by putting two and two together or from a friend - she immediately makes herself as distant as possible from me. One minute she's my friend and we're on good terms, the next minute she's acting as though I've just tried to take her life. What am I doing wrong? Sometimes I like a girl after knowing her for just a few weeks. I don't know her parents' names, where she went to school, or what all of her political beliefs are - but I don't need to know any of those things in order to get along well with her, adore her personality, share her favorite pastimes, or respect her intelligence. All of the important things come from directly interacting with a person, not knowing every minute detail and spending months with them. I can tell very quickly if a girl is the type of woman that I find appealing. What am I doing wrong? Why do girls find me so scary? I'm not overweight, I take care of my appearance, I try to be fun and outgoing and social, I do my best to avoid any kind of behavior that could be misconstrued as creepy...some girls have even told me that I'm cute, and sweet, and intelligent. So why do so many girls run away the moment they know I like them? What about me is so unattractive? What is so terrifying about the idea of me having a crush on a girl? Is it a bad thing to do to a girl, to like her? Is it unfair to her, or something? Inconsiderate? Does it place her in a difficult position? Should I do my best to avoid liking girls? What am I doing wrong?