why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who do

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by incombustible2000, Dec 10, 2007.

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  1. incombustible2000

    incombustible2000 Well-Known Member

    why do people believe people who do not deserve to be believed, if someone mother family member who ever, tells you that you are not worth while, why do people believe them, stop it do not believe them stop thinking you are responsible for the hurtful things others do.....
     
  2. incombustible2000

    incombustible2000 Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    why do people feel this way
     
  3. wonderer

    wonderer Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    Because they are people we trusted and relied on.
    If it happens often enough, I guess you get used to the fact that its just the person's bs. But the first time... when you still trust them, anyone would look to see if it was them.
    For me, I doubt my ability to analyze myself, so I just end up believing them, but I'm just kinda pathetic like that.
     
  4. SoulRiser

    SoulRiser Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    I guess if you hear things like that often enough and don't hear positive things to counter-act it, it's kinda hard to not believe in it. Basically, if more people complimented each other, the world would be a better place. How many times have you admired something about someone and never actually told them? Compare that to how many times someone annoyed you and you did tell them......
     
  5. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    I think that if others do not been take responsibility for the hurt they cause then the responsibility gets soaked up by people who feel they have to carry it. This has been a problem for me. I'm just a sponge for my family..:dry:
     
  6. Perishable

    Perishable Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    I agree with wonderer.

    If your mother were to tell you how useless, pathetic, annoying, selfish, stupid, and messed up you were. You would feel as you were.
    (I hate my mother by the way, she tells me all those things and then some)

    You see if a complete stranger were to come up to you and tell
    "You're stupid"...you might be puzzled and degraded. But.
    If your mother tells you "You're stupid"
    You know she is comparing you. Degrading you while knowing you.
    She created you.

    I dont believe my mother anymore though.
    I treat her as a 'complete stranger'.
    Cause the term 'mother' implies a caring nurturer.
    Which she is not. So to me, she is just some odd lady who custody of me.

    No one likes to be degraded. Especially by their fellow man they aspire to be or are at the same level of.
     
  7. incombustible2000

    incombustible2000 Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    yes its hard to have anough faith in yourself... to not let the negative in.... try to keep the negative out.... and think where there motives come from, and if they have to be like that to everyone else, or the people they care about there is something wrong with there heads not yours, and they have to work on it... do not take responsibility for others ........ dont beleive it dont believe it dont let the negative messages in... or atleast try... I know its not easy.... but bit by bit choose to not let it effect you and relize where its comeing from..... people who are your family parents are suppose to support and love you and be positive, and if they are not.... thats there fault.. there responsibility you did not ask to be born....
     
  8. crackedglass

    crackedglass Well-Known Member

    Re: why do people feel responsible for the harm that others do and believe people who

    because when certain people say it maybe they really mean it. They really do want you to suffer and i deserve to as just before my ex boyfriend killed himself and throughout our 2 year relationship majority of the stuff he said was true. but i see he only said it to try to make me change and that i know people say he never really loved me but because of me he killed hiself and i think hes an idiot for doing it but he just couldnt get me out of his mind he said :( i was the final person he contacted. i wished he hadnt of done it because i will never get a chance to tell him any of the stuff i wanted him to know. People that care about you usually say stuff to change you to who they want you to be and their version of you as a better person. but i know for me there is no better side or better person of me. sorry didnt really answer the question...
     
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