When i'm more abrasive with girls I find that it draws them more towards me. Like, they find it cute and feel they need to work to get to the softer side of me. When I play the nice guy, I might as well be invisible. I generally find it much easier and rewarding to be on the prickier side. It annoys me because I hear women constantly prattle on about sensitivity in a partner and how they aren't 'one of those types' who dig jerks. Most of you strike me as really clueless as to what truly draws you in.