Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Aurora Gory Alice, May 7, 2010.
I am curious, I won't write my usual little ditty because I don't want to risk influencing answers.
Not like you get much support anymore though
Chat is there to help, Wayne. If you want help, come talk to us. We have been talking abour refridgerators.
And eyebrows. Its quite lighthearted actually.
you might wanna look at my post in let it all out. Telling me you are in skype just makes me paranoid and is no support to me whatsoever
K let's keep this one on topic!
Answering the OP's question ... I can't use chat, which pisses me off because I'd like to be able to!
Keep it on topic Harry! lol
I'm sorry Lucy, just being supportive to Alison! But on topic, I usually go into chat when I'm feeling down and just need to be around others and to avoid from isolating...
well its the truth the support of this forum is laughable at best at the moment. Just so i wont get accused of going off topic i have a thread in let it all out dedicated to my rants
I don't go into chat because my computer won't let me.. I have found just going thru the forums keeps me busy enough..
I dont use chat.....I maybe only 31 and able to use a computer but chat just scares me.It moves so quick and I cant keep up sometimes plus I feel like a bit of an outsider there.And as for Skype...what the bloody hell is that?ha.
I used to be in chat frequently but now I rarely do. Maybe once every couple months. Only when I'm super bored and on the computer.
The chat scares me too much. I'm way too shy and I need time to think about how to say things since my english is not the best.
In my 2 years here I've never been in chat. I'm more of a lurker than a talker :smile:.
I don't. Or at least I don't now. I find Chat elitist, cliquey and 'clubby' and some people are treated as a 'outsider' where the conversation never goes beyone "Hi" and thereafter be ignored. I admit to have shyness issues, but I used to go in as "somewhere to go" in the hope of finding some 'virtual' company in my life where boredom is a constant companion to me. Yes, there are a few who will converse and show some genuine interest in me (occasionally listen to what I have to say), but the vast majority don't. Presumably because I am not a member of the "Chat Club" (whatever that is).
Another reason is I find a lot of conversations often descend into squabbes and the odd flamewar, which I want no part of.
Once I was even sworn at before I had even said anything, which was enough reason to keep me away for quite a while.
I always find this strange behaviour in a place that supposed to be a support forum.
I have to agree that chat does seem very cliquey and it takes a certain type of person to break through into a clique. Now if you aren't that sort of person, you are immediately going to feel alienated and like you are somewhere you don't belong.
I think the use of first names when people enter chat - although it's sweet - is also another way of alienating those that don't come in often.
Sadly the only way it is going to change is if those who don't frequent it, go in from time to time, to make newcomers feel welcome, or if there were designated chatters. People who hang out in chat to integrate everybody into the conversation but are also there if you need support.
Because from what I can see, if you are in crisis mode and you go into chat, chances are you won't get any help, as it seems to be a place to get away from the forum and chat about everything and nothing as opposed to a place to go for support.
Not saying that's a bad thing... there's no disclaimer that says "chat - a place for support", similar to the Soap Box and The Coffee House, it's not so much a place to talk about what's bothering you as it is a place to talk about well... to put it nicely, nonsense.
Pretty much sums be up too, not up on all that slang stuff, have never gone there, mixed reviews about it, guess I should try it before I make any kind of judgements.
Well it's a nice way to socialise with others if you have nothing else to be doing, plus the people on there on't bite , it's quiet easy to hold a conversation once you get going.
Personally I like the forums better but chatting is also good.
You must let me and others who are ignored and alienated in Chat what your secret is.
BTW, people there do bite.