Why keep hurting me?

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by shamps, Apr 28, 2010.

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  1. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    I have just spent the last couple of hours being bombarded by texts from my ex!!!Why is he trying to hurt me even more than he has?

    I cant change my number yet again as ive just given this number out to loads of ads on the web for places to live.As I dont have long now before I have to move out its vital that these places can get in touch with me.

    I have sent very stern messages to him stating that I will have him done for harrassment if he doesnt leave me alone and asked him politely(which was hard to do)for him not to text me again.

    Is he just deliberatly just trying to stop me getting better?Why?I dont deserve this on top of everything I really dont!!!

    Im hurting really really badly.......................:sad:
  2. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    Save the texts and go to the police..They will put the fear of god in him..What he is doing is not right..Do you have the option on your phone to block him..I still think the police is the way to handle him..
  3. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    Hi,there is a local police station minutes away from my home.I have just sent him a msg stating for the last time that if I get one more msg I will go give them his details.

    I think hes just banking on the fact that im finding it extremely hard to leave the house at the moment,but rather that than take this mental torture!!!!:sad:

    As for my phone,it does allsorts but im a bit of a technophobe,can only get used to the basics on anything technology wise mores the pity,I wouldnt know where to start.:sad:
  4. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    I agree...
    this man is showing his true colours....you are so much better off without him.
    Is there a shop that specialises in selling phones where you could take it and ask them to put the block on for you or at least show you how to do it...
    I'm so sorry hes harrasing you Ange....:console::cheekkiss:hug:
  5. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    Well ive had the police around tonight,he let himself in shouting and balling and throwing stuff about.Ranting that ive nicked his things and his precious frikkin sunglasses that I bought anyway!!

    He didnt touch me but I felt he may have done if I hadnt called the police.They let him off with a caution on the provisal there is no more "threatning behaviour".They have also advised that since its his name on the lease and he is being "kind enough" to let me stay I have no right to throw him out or lock him out unless his behaviour deteriorates further.

    They failed to acknowledge that he stank of alcohol and had arrived by car and subsequently left by car.I dont know why I bothered they are only helpful once you've been beaten half to death nowadays.Comes to something when you wish you had been beaten so they could lock him up.Then I wouldnt be laid here now in bed worried he may come back at anytime.Ive piled some things up behind the bedroom door seen as there is no lock on it.It may be enough that he has been warned but then again if he is drunk.I dont know what happened.Ive left him totally alone and he has what he wants.He is using the fact that he has control for as long as I rely on his "kindness" as its been suggested.The sooner I can afford to get away the better.I shouldnt have to live like this.:no:
  6. absolution

    absolution Forum Buddy

    Hun... :cry: i love you
    :i'm sorry:
  7. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    :WTF:..well done for calling the police Ange...I hope you'll be able to get some sleep...
    do you think a restraining order would be a good idea?..you should be able to get one now he's done this....
    take care and don't let him beat you...you can do this...:hug::hug:
  8. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    I am giving him this one last chance.He speaks to me or txts me or causes trouble like that again im gunna either get a restraining order or get him locked up but still im in that same predicament.If I piss him off I lose the roof over my head and I can do without that until I can get somewhere else.Ive found a few possibles but nothing I can do until I have the money.

    Hopefully he knows he doesnt stand a chance if he does it again now its on record.When I do go il make damn sure he cant find me to worm his way back in again.

    Thanks all *hugs*.
  9. satyesu

    satyesu Member

    Do you have a friend's house to bed at for a bit?
  10. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    Nah hun....no friends,no family.Just little me and a nasty ex....
  11. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    you're doing well Ange..you'll get through this.....:cheekkiss:console:
  12. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    Bless ya IV......At least its payday tomorrow so il have something towards a new place.:hugtackles:
  13. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    can you stay at a womens shelter for awhile until he gets lost or until police get him to stop
  14. shamps

    shamps Well-Known Member

    If he carries on I may just try that but I dont want to have to drag all my clothes and personal effects there just to have to move them again when I find a new place.Ive had way too much upheaval in the past and the last couple of weeks to last a lifetime.

    Also ive already paid up the rent and bills (my half)at the beginning of this month...to cover me until the 19th May so unless I can help it I dont want him winning in that way aswel.I couldnt bare the thought of having thrown money away. xox
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