Why must everything be sexual

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by japanlover, Nov 29, 2011.

  1. japanlover

    japanlover Well-Known Member

    I can't stand it, im a guy and I want sex all the time. Yah big surprise :mellow:

    I feel it hinders me in many ways. I feel as if sex wasn't there, I could accomplish so much. Any other guys feel this too? If we didn't have our urges at all we could accomplish a lot more? :laugh:
  2. BrinkOfExistence

    BrinkOfExistence Well-Known Member

    I don't have urges for sex anymore, more for companionship, yet i still fail at life, so to the answer to your would be no.
  3. japanlover

    japanlover Well-Known Member

    Yah see that's the other complication. If you are a lonely heart, the sexual urges aren't there, I was the same for a while. But after I would get into any relationship I want them :mellow:
  4. BrinkOfExistence

    BrinkOfExistence Well-Known Member

    It took 2 years without sex before the urges stopped however i imagine if i were to have sex again the urges would come back and the whole process would start over.
  5. yamainu

    yamainu Member

    I wonder that question, "why must everything be sexual", but about every one else.
    I do not care about sex at all. no one believes me, but I really do not. Yet sex seems to be all is ever on the mind of every one else.
  6. I remember feeling that way, still do a little. No one really helps guys in that area at all. The media wants to just exploit sex and push it in our faces like we are mindless. Some people want us to repress it like there is something wrong with us, or as if we really have a choice. Then there are others who want us to express if far too much like something is wrong with us if we don't. And there are others who want to use it to manipulate us. The way I see it, us males are cursed either way.
  7. Entoloma43

    Entoloma43 Well-Known Member

    Humans are biologically driven to reproduce, so we are naturally sexual creatures.
  8. Sardaukar

    Sardaukar Well-Known Member


    well, before i had sex, i was always, always ALWAYS thinking about, how i needed to get laid. I used to watch alot of porn,and i was addicted to it for a while, im not proud of that at all. I think it was more the frustration, at being a virgin at my age, than got to me, more that actually being horny. Then, after I did it, i just.. thought about it less. And less. Nowadays it only crosses my mind, when Im speaking to a certain someone :wink: and we do get a bit, erm, sexual in our conversations some times, but not alot, and not overly so. Hes the only person I want to be with now, and I dont really feel the need to ermm
    spend time alone, as it were, nearly as much as i used to. It used to be this huge thing for me, this impossible objective, and now that i know its not as amazing as its made out to be, i guess i just, dont crave it anymore. Honestly, when i compare the two, ive enjoyed playing Skyrim, and watching UFC, more than I actually enjoyed the times ive had sex, so ja. Oh and a good cup of coffee :/
  9. Growing Pains

    Growing Pains Well-Known Member

    Don't feel like that. I have little to no urges - never have had many (I'll have rare occasions where I have a lot of drive, but they're very rare) - and have not accomplished anything.

    No one believes me, either. I think it's silly. a-sexuality (meaning lack of a sex drive, not the other definition... though, I'm not sure if the other one does) occurs in humans just as well as it does in some other animals. Thinking it doesn't just because it goes against "normality" seems odd.
  10. dice

    dice Well-Known Member

    Yeah I think this is quite normal, I wouldn't worry about it. I think every guy is the same way so I wouldn't worry about thinking you are any different. Guys enjoy sex and think about it frequently, it isn't just you.
  11. Brandt

    Brandt Well-Known Member

    I'm fairly young(22) but my "urges" are pretty tame, when I was younger all I wanted was sex, now it's about how bored I am.
  12. lightbeam

    lightbeam Antiquities Friend

    I've grown content with companionship. Not so long ago (28 to 29 - 34 now), I used to want sex all the time. However, I found out about overuse from my two wives. I wish I would have given myself a break. Overuse tames sexual desire. Besides, now that they are both gone, I am just looking for companionship.
  13. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni

    I think about sex all the time but I don't think it holds me back. I think most things I want to accomplish in life are ultimately about getting more sex anyway. I'd be much more of a bum and a slob if I thought I'd never have sex again.
  14. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    As Sir Richard Francis Burton said (a great man i admire a lot)

    Conquer thyself, till thou has done this, thou art but a slave; for it is almost as well to be subjected to another's appetite as to thine own.

    Control is something you learn.