Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up to?

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  1. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    I just got asked this, this morning.

    I am yet to Email back.

    Do I lie and say "Oh you know, nothing much, this and that, same old same old".

    Or do I tell the truth and bare my soul and admit "I had a breakdown in July, I attempted suicide, I'm unemployed, trying to get voluntary work just to keep me going, still living with my mother, single, put on 10lbs, future looks bleak, it's all I can do to get out of bed in the mornings really. You?"
     
  2. max0718

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    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    I'd say it depends on how good a friend this old acquaintance was of yours. Although, even if you do know this person well enough - I'd rather you wait and re-establish the friendship before you tell them. It can be devastating opening up to a person, only to have them not reply or send some half-hearted reply.

    As I say though, it all depends on your previous relationship with the person. Were you two good friends?
     
  3. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    No we weren't at all, it was my friends housemate, so we only met like a handful of times.
    I don't see us re-establishing any sort of friendship because we never really had one I guess.

    I'll go with the first thing. I suppose I'm just worried that if I act all okay people will assume I am and start inviting me places and then be pissed when I make excuses and don't show up. Because I am not okay and I can't socialise right now. I'm not sure how to deal with that?
     
  4. morfea

    morfea Antiquities Friend

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    Tricky situation, I wouldn't be all that honest unless it's my best friend but I hate making up stories as well. How about if you said you were very busy trying to find a job and doing voluntary work in the meantime?
     
  5. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    I think I've got it.

    I'm going to say I've been having a rough time of it recently, but I don't really want to go into it. I suppose in that sense I've said enough ...but I haven't said anything at all.
     
  6. morfea

    morfea Antiquities Friend

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    lol, but yes, true, hope it does the trick
    have you ever tried to find a job in diplomacy? :)
     
  7. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    haha no never. :)

    I think it'll do the trick, most people are too scared to dig too deep in case you tell them something they don't wanna hear, like opening up a can of worms. So they seemingly leave it at that. "I don't wanna talk about it", always seems to be an "okay!" very quickly. Especially when it's me. :laugh:
     
  8. morfea

    morfea Antiquities Friend

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    come on Linds you're nothing special :D
    happens to the best of us!
    :joke:

    Actually it's a good way to find out who really cares about you, if they don't ask anything else, it's either they don't want to know or, they may be just like you, hiding it as well as you are, my experience anyway.
     
  9. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    haha believe me, nobody ever wants to ask anything else. (Apart from my counsellor). lol

    Even my own mother changes the subject or becomes silent when I start talking about anything 'deep and meaningful'. :laugh:

    It's cool anyways, I have you guys to talk to. :)
     
  10. max0718

    max0718 Well-Known Member

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    Always! :smile:
     
  11. NoGood

    NoGood Well-Known Member

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    Only getting online now. Have you replied yet??
     
  12. itmahanh

    itmahanh Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    Glad you seem to have found an answer. FYI the most over used and useless phrase today is "how have you been?" Nobody really wants to know, they just seem to ask it as if it is something they are supposed to do. If you started to go into detail, chances are they'd turn all zombie on you and not hear a word your saying (lol)!!! If they are a real friend, they wont even have to ask. They would just know something is up with you. So dont sweat it Linds. Cuz yep you have all us here and only a minimal few are zombies (lmao).

    :arms: mmmmm brains!!!!!
     
  13. Sadeyes

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    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    I have responded, "Working on myself, and you"...they dont need to know how 'moving' the work is...best of luck, J
     
  14. bluegrey

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    Re: Why to say when old acquaintances ask you where you've been/what you've been up t

    Lately I've been saying, "Oh, uh between State Department and Defense". :tongue: I don't spill my guts because no matter how close you may have once been with someone the minute you even hint mental problems you get treated like a serial killer or patronized within an inch of your life.

    Screw 'em. :cool:
     
  15. perry_mason

    perry_mason Well-Known Member

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    i wouldnt even bother replying at all.
     
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