I'm sorry if this upsets/triggers anyone, but need to get it out. Just realised last night that every close female friend that I have had has either been raped, had a guy perv on them or had their husband cheat on them. I feel as tho the only reason I haven't had any of these things happen to me is that I refuse to get married and until this year had SUCH over-protective parents who refused to let me have any male friends. And I'm not talking about boyfriends....I wasn't even allowed to have a private convo with a male cousin!! How can men do this and get away with it?? Any of the girls who have told others are told that it's their fault that the abuse happened or that they are just troublemakers. That is SUCH a load of rubbish!! I want to tell their stories (not mentioning personal details obv). *WARNING MAY BE TRIGGERING* T was about 9 when she used to regularly go to a certain place with her parents. She was supposed to be SAFE there. But a close friend of her parents started being friendly...then after a while started touching her. She was only a CHILD for god's sake. She never told anyone. S was 15. She regularly got beaten up by her dad, gran and aunts. One day a friends dad asked her to come to his car because he had something for her. He made her sit in the back of the car, pinned her down and then sarted touching her. She told people and was told "well, it was your fault for getting into the car with him. You obviously encouraged him." A was a mother to 2 kids. Her husband was abusive to her, but she stayed for the sake of the kids. She got a call from one of his work colleagues saying he had raped her after work. He was confronted, finally admitted it and promised it would never happen again. Now, several years later the police are after him because there have been allegations that he has abused lil kids. He's on the run. No other woman in her family supports A because they say that she must have caused him to behave like this by being a bad wife. AT was 20 when she left home to study at uni against her parents wishes. While at uni, she started learning music from a male teacher. He slowly gained her trust and then raped her. He then had the cheek to visit her family after a year and spoke to her, pretending nothing had happened! She ended up taking at least 4 overdoses, thinking that the drugs would make the pain go away. K was 10 when her favourite cousin got married. Her and her husband regularly came to visit K. She loved her cousin, but her cousins husband always touched her inappropriately. This went on for years. She actually got raped by someone else when she was 16 (but that's a different story). When she finally got married herself and had a kid, she went to see her cousin. Her cousin's husband touched her again and she flipped and walked out the house. K finally told her own husband what had happened. He saw it for himself and slapped the guy. He was subsequently banned from seeing any of K's family. She was told she was causing trouble in the family. She is not welcome in her family at all. There were people who knew about what had happened, and had also been subject to the same stuff but refused to speak up for fear of causing trouble. TA was a close school friend. Her family were really really close. She loved her dad to bits. What she didn't know was that her dad used to abuse her mum. Her mum stayed in the marriage for the sake of the kids. When she was 16, they found out that her dad was leading a double life - he had another woman. When confronted, he blamed TA's mum for not being good enough. The community that the family were part of took the dad's side of the story. They said it was acceptable for him to do that. Why does this happen? Why do some people think that it's ok to hit on girls. Some of these girls were just KIDS when it happened. What makes guys think that they can just take away their innocence like this?