Sweetheart it's as if abused people carry neon signs on their heads. i think its because they're usually child victims to start with. it's about posture and the way u walk etc.
Apparently there was a whole study on victims of rape, mugging etc and confident, self assured people who walk talk and act unconcerned are less likely to be a victim of an attack.
Can I ask, are you sure you're not picking abusers?
I only ask cos I was sexually abused as a kid and in my teens it was like every molester, rapist, violent sadistic bastard made a beeline for me. I used to think it was something I was doing, but a very good therapist explained to me that abusers are really good at spotting victims (i.e the damage from the early abuse was like a beacon to them).
Once I came to terms with what had happened to me as a child I seemed to stop attracting these low lifes.
Never think the victim is to blame, the attacker is the one to blame.
Please find someone u can talk this thru with, please don't blame yourself for not fighting back. until I knew I could fight back and win I would have been endangering my life trying to fight someone twice my size.
You are no way at fault in these situations !!!!!!
Also taking up martial arts for defence wasn't a bad move either...I laid a potential rapist out with one solid blow to his solar plexus..don't think he knew what hit him.. :laugh: