why?

Discussion in 'Let it all out...' started by silentlyscreaming, Sep 1, 2006.

  1. why do i have to hurt the people i care about? god blessed me with two people who want to be with me and i fuckin ruin it..yea..i pretty much dont deserve any blessings from god anymore
     
  2. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    This is a 'welcome to my life' situation... relationships and I are disasterous for all concerned. I hurt them, they hurt me and it always ends in disaster. I have decided not to do relationships any more til I'm sorted out, it just isn't worth it! So I have no advice I'm afraid...!
    Sarah
     
  3. BlackPegasus

    BlackPegasus Well-Known Member

    Based on my own experiences and the wisdom my elders share with me it is impossible to have a relationship in which you never get hurt or hurt the other. The key I think is to learn to forgive ourselves and learn from our mistakes. Sometimes punishing ourselves is the worst thing we can do. It makes us feel worse and it doesn't address the problem at all. In fact I've found we tend to repeat things if we don't address them. So don't beat yourself up. You are only human and no doubt going through a lot yourself. Just remember it's alright to make mistakes. That's how we learn and grow and we make them every day for our entire lives. :hug:

    Mia
     
  4. Hazel

    Hazel SF & Antiquitie's Friend Staff Alumni

    Relationships are never easy, it is easy to hurt and offend those we love even though that was never what we intended, I hope you can work it out with your friends...

    :hug: Hazel x
     
  5. ahh..the one girl is in love with me and will always be and the other one is a risk and i dont know if shell love me forever like the other one..what should i do
     
  6. Casey.

    Casey. Well-Known Member

    Aww... I'm sure that you didn't hurt them that badly. Its gonna be okay.
    Ashton
     
  7. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    Point is, do you love the girl who loves you in the same way?? If not, it's not fair to use her to hedge your bets cos neither of you will ever truly be happy (relationship advice from the relationship Titanic... :blink: :WTF:)
    Sarah