So, here’s my story. I went on 20 MG of Paxil in 2001 for anxiety. I stayed on Paxil for 10 years not because of the health problem I went on Paxil but because of having a little too much ‘OCD’ as my soon to be ex-wife would indicate. In 2008 , I started having problems getting erections. So, at 31 years old I went to see my doctor and he prescribed me Viagra. That was his cure for 3 years. For the most part, Viagra did the job for that time period. Apparently, anti-depressants can have a very negative effect on sexual function. Last summer I began to get frustrated with my wife and treat her poorly due to the fact I lacked major confidence in being intimate with her. This led us into having a lot of problems carrying into the last fall/early winter which now has resulted in a soon to be divorce. So now I am out of my house (living with my parents for the time being), getting divorced from my beautiful wife (who did not deserve the emotional abuse I put her through, which if I talked with her more openly about this instead of lashing out at her, I could still be married). Now, she is about to enter a relationship and have lots of fun with a new guy and I am left with impotence (for now at least) and the possibility of not having sex again for years due to this drug. It’s called Post SSRI Sexual Dysfunction. What really hurts is my wife is a very sexual person. She really likes sex. I do think that if I had just talked to her about this, she would have been very understanding and would have stayed the course. But, because I did not go about it that way, she is now ready to pounce other men. I know this because she has a very strong sense of urgency in getting our divorce settled. I also went through her drawers at the house the other day and found a lot of new lingerie including numerous thongs, etc. She didn’t wear those for me . That really hurts that my wife is or will soon be having lots of sex with a new guy and I am left with no chance of doing the same. In actuality, I just want to be that guy my wife is or will be having sex with. So, how do you get these thoughts of your spouse with another person out of your head? Can’t say I haven’t had thoughts of suicide. I just haven’t because of my family, friends, etc. So that’s my story.