Will every woman I date lie to me?

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by thebaronspell, May 25, 2011.

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  1. thebaronspell

    thebaronspell Well-Known Member

    Wrote to my ex via facebook inboxing and she said was going to tell me about her new boyfriend but basically allowed me to see the news in shock via her status change without even as much as a text to let me know. She still reckons I'm her soul mate but I just feel used.

    She was the only person I could talk about anything to and now she had ripped my heart apart.
     
  2. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    TBH you are well rid!
    If she couldn't even respect you enough to tell you to your face or at least phone, then she's not worth another thought.
    Plenty of decent girls out there, this was obviously not one of them.
     
  3. marmite

    marmite Active Member

    No,You will find someone who will really love and respect you who will not treat you badly,Not all women are the same.My husband and I have been happily married 28 years not without difficulties though.I suffer bipolar,had a miscarraige,childlessness,him out of work and stress from ill parents and brother in law.We have come out stronger and you will to.best wishes for your future.:hugtackles:
     
  4. thebaronspell

    thebaronspell Well-Known Member

    Thanks for your support. It just feels like I won't meet anybody that will me for me. From what I've heard from wiser and older people then myself is that it was easier to date people years ago but not so anymore and I can totally agree it sounded so easy back then. Problem is everybody keeps saying be myself but after my nerves have gone my normal likable self comes through and their interest in my wears off :(

    I'm just a 21 year man whose sole purpose is to entertain and make people laugh yet they make me feel dead inside in return.
     
  5. peacelovingguy

    peacelovingguy Well-Known Member

    It looks like this other love interest is now in the black so to speak.

    Still, back in my day you'd likely see that a girl had been with someone else when the 'love bite' was displayed on her neck. Used to be all the craze in my day - a visible (for a few days) token of having kissed someone and been intimate, albeit in the 1970s version of teenage intimacy. The love bite is a basic bruise caused by sucking, vampire like, on someone's neck - creates a very visible blemish for a few days.

    Kinda like the facebook of today with its little tell tale notifier of being in a relationship or not.

    I guess dating has become way easier - for cads! I know men who are on the internet and getting a 'date' every Friday night - or whatever they have free. It's not really a date - as a proper date would or should entail, at most, a quick kiss at the end of the evening when you escort her to the point of departure .

    It's like your trying to get to know a women and she is duty bound to protect her 'honour' by not throwing herself at any man who passes her way at happy hour in the local bar.

    Anyhow, losing in love is just part of life. some are lucky - others not so lucky. Either way, its a million times better to be single than to be a 'plus one' with someone who is not right for you.

    Aged 21 you got a lot of time, God willing, or fate providing. But that time waits for none of us and with respect to love, I guess a man has to try and be chivelrous as regards any ex's - I don't hate any - never knew them long enough for that - but even so, you don't want to have any hate in your heart - because that is a destructive force indeed.

    As for how to prepare for a date, here is what I recall from the past...

    Obviously be clean! I'm sure you are but make a extra special effort for a date, a good hot shower, maybe some shower gel or a nice smelling man's soap. Brush the teeth well - and use some mouthwash also. A close shave - maybe a couple of discreet dabs of aftershave and hair washed squeaky clean with a decent shampoo. I use antiperspirant to stop any sweat, or if you don't sweat then use some deodorant.

    Clean clothes - I mean a set of clothes freshly washed, and perhaps ironed also.

    Look after yourself regardless - I mean physically speaking. You don't have to be Mr Muscle, but its attractive to women if a man keeps in good shape. It does not take a lot - I'm in my forties and still the same weight I was aged 21. Not got the same endurance obviously, as I don't exactly have some daily work out plan. Nothing like a date to make a man start exercising a little more.

    Jut be yourself - its not with pretending to be something your not!

    I wish you well in your search for someone - but try and just enjoy being a guy also - find a few preoccupations others than that of woman. Could be music, writing, artistic endeavours or such-like. After all, if you find the right women you and she will benefit if you both have other interests.

    I mean, she might find it annoying if you want to hold her hand whilst she is washing the dishes. (Don't worry, I'm drying them and putting them away)

    Being old fashioned, I'd say that loyalty means everything to men and women. Nobody is EVER going to be perfect - we all have flaws which we hide from everyone but those who really love us.

    The Doors have a song called 'Love hides' and the lyrics tell us that ....

    Love hides in the strangest places.
    Love hides in familiar faces.
    Love comes when you least expect it.
    Love hides in narrow corners.
    Love comes to those who seek it.
    Love hides inside the rainbow.
    Love hides in molecular structures.
    Love is the answer.

    It's all so true!

    And so much more.

    Good luck brother - and no, not all women will lie to you - in fact, your just unlucky there. I never met a lying women, even the ones bad for me were good. So I guess I'm lucky there.

    I could still do with a Summer of Love though.

    Couldn't we all?

    Regards from England.
     
  6. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    The Doors! :wub:
     
  7. thebaronspell

    thebaronspell Well-Known Member

    Thanks peacelovingguy for your advice, I've took it all on board. Like your Rigsby photo, Rising Damp (classic!) I'm from sunny England also mate :9
     
  8. kp80

    kp80 Member

    I know how you feel. Nothing like the hurt of loving someone who lets you down over and over again to make you feel worthless. I keep trying to tell myself that they are not worth it and I can do better. Hopefully someday I can get myself to believe it!
     
  9. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    I just met a really nice lady whose also a teacher like me. God I hope this works out. She is truly marriage material and she is absolutely beautiful. I hope you can find someone special too baron. :smile:
     
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