I'm worried. When I think about the way men treat women in my family,I feel uneasy. When I think of examples of the way men treat women, I've only really seen what goes on in my family. Women are either abused physically or emotionally. I've never witnessed physical abuse. Fortunately my dad (I think) isn't capable of that. I've definitely heard of physical abuse within my extended family. Women tend to be limited to taking care of the house and raising the children too. I know my dad is a pioneer for these gender specific roles unfortunately. What scares me is what if I grow up to be just like them. Sort of like a Chris Brown/Rihanna scenario. I believe Chris Brown was brought up in an abusive household and he turned out to be abusive himself. What if I become such a......"beast" to my wife. You know when I think of my mom and the role my dad played in shaping her into a vegetable...I'm certain that there are things worse than killing someone. I know I don't want to be like that, but like they say, the apple never falls far from the tree. I feel like I can be a very clingy person. I've never had a gf, but I'm sure that's my personality. That's a trait common in abusive people right? It kind of makes me never want to get a gf or get married if I become an asshole. I see/feel some of the qualities of my dad in me....the undesirable ones. He can't cook which explains why my mom is stuck doing it. I think of myself and I really can't cook either. Mind you I'm better than my dad and I took some strides to learn the basics last semester, but I still have a long way to go. Now with premed preparations, I feel like I'll never be proficient at cooking. My dad also has a bad temper. I was once told by someone that men in my family do have a fiery temper. You know what? When I feel mad I swear I can feel my blood boil. I try to contain it, but sometimes I do get into fights with my sister. I'll swear at her, and she'll swear at me. Not something I would want to happen in any relationship. If I'm not cussing, you can definitely see the anger in my face/body language. How do I just cool down?? I'm worried about this. If I can't be respectful to my wife, then marriage/gfs should be out of the question. But then....what's the point in living if you can't have a partner?? I don't care how much money you have, but a lambo will never make up for those feelings of loneliness.... Do people come out of abusive families to raise their own proper functional families? Or am I doomed to repeat what my asshole guy relatives have going on in their families?