Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by swimmergirl, Oct 6, 2009.
Can loneliness kill you??
I don't know but I seem to be trying to find out.
Once I said to my therapist that I was horribly lonely and he said without looking up, "have you been to a meeting?" and I said, "oops." He was talking about an AA meeting because I'm an alcoholic.
Many times I thought I was going to die because I was so lonely. It never killed me. At the same time, it was so difficult to go out and do anything because of my depression.
At that time I had a part time job and that helped me get out of the house. I can't work now because of my knee pain but I do get to church most weeks and I get my dose of hugs that way.
Please keep posting here, that may be helpful for you.
Lonliness cant kill you - it can 'kill' inside, but only you can take your life in that sense.
Its a horrible feeling, i find that the only time i ever hear silence is when im lonely. Like nothing is there for you in that room and nothing is beyond those walls. But lonliness is easy to snap out of. Just buying a hamster or interacting with someone either on the internet or at work/school etc can eliviate it.
As Chargette said... those hugs... that interaction and warmth recieved should lift any one up.
I recently broke up with a partner.... it sucks, nothing but bad thoughts and the sense of lonliness, but im creating things to look forward to, which will make it easier to break.
Hope things are looking better already.
loneliness cant kill you. its how you deal with it that can change your world forever.
Hello swimmergirl, I don't know if it can kill you. I've been lonely for as long as I can remember, 45 years. Even though I'm "adult", I still always get more lonely every day when the sun starts going down. This feeling of sadness and lonliness usually goes a couple of hours after sunset. I heard that in some cultures, if say the husband dies, the widow will lie down, and force herself to die, which seems to take a couple of weeks. It would be good to get a medical opinion regarding your question.
I believe so too!
Its a weird phenomenon with Love birds, which can be seen in humans when someone looses a loved one (e.g partner in marriage). The partner who experiences the loss slowly ends up loosing the will and motivation to live, and lets go of life too.
How ever, Im biased to say that lonliness it self doesn't 'kill' you, but it triggers a release of negative emotions which in turn probably would be the reason someone stops caring to live.
medically there are studies proving that participants scoring high in levels of loneliness, actually have a higher blood pressure reading than those who do not suffer from it. And high blood pressure itself is a link to different medical heart conditions.
HOWEVER... once again.. its a correlation, a link, a pattern, but it is not loneliness that kills. Its just an emotion which domino effects to other issues.
Hope thats something of interest!
Loneliness can't kill you, but that's preety much the only bad thing it can't do. Lack of social contact causes depression, stress, anxiety and can even manifestate with physical symptons sometimes (headches, migraines, insomnia...).
The important thing tough, is to ask how to make it ago away. Mankind are social beings, it's our nature to socialise. If you're suffering from loneliness, it's never too early to star looking for a solution to that. We'll be here for you to be as good company as we can, and to advice you in whatever's in your heart.
Talk to us anytime :wink:
Thank you all so much, those were some of the most thoughtful and kind responses I have gotten on here. I am glad I am not the only one who has thought about this and has experienced the pain from loneliness. I sometimes feel like my heart is literally breaking it hurts so badly. I am trying to be positive about making changes, but there is only so much you can control...it is a constant struggle for me.
much appreciated for your thanks! It is sad that some if not all of us has felt or are feeling lonly.
Its true, there is only so much you can do... my self.. i just think its a waiting game. I just do what i need to do, and have to wake up each day hoping that gradually the feeling will get less and less and less.
Keep in touch! x