Something happened at work today and im not entirely sure on how to handle it if at all. Some of the back story. Last December i was in the hospital and to make a long story short i was tripping out and put a cigarette to my arm and my hands, now as a result i have burn scars. The ones on my hands aren't as obvious, but the ones on my forearm are kind of obvious that they were made my cigarettes or at least burnt by SOMETHING deliberately. At first i was quite embarrassed and ashamed by it, but now im just trying to move on. While im not exactly flaunting it, im also not really putting any effort into covering it up any more either. I also have stopped with the lame stories and just say i burnt myself and end of story. It isnt the first time i've self harmed but i also wouldn't say that i have a self harming 'problem' or 'addiction' if you will where i have troubles controlling or stopping it. This burning incident was pretty much a one time thing over something that happened while being in the hospital. Anyway now getting back on track. I came in to work wearing a plaid button down shirt and the sleeves only came down 3 quarters of the way thus showing my obvious forearm scars. My manager walks by me says hello and i go and swipe in and then walk out but stop outside the door for a second to wipe cat fur off my pants(i really need to get a lint roller). My manager then comes back and gets my attention and pulls me into the sign in/training room again and confronts me about my scars. Manager: So what are those scars from? Me: (completely caught off guard at this point)uhhhhh... why does it matter? Manager: Well it doesnt but customers are going to ask. Me:....uhhh yaa... well they're just scars..... Manager: Well im just completely shocked ive never seen them before Me:..... yaaa well i usually try and wear a long sleeved shirt but i guess today i didn't.... Manager: Well do you have anything you can to cover them with....did you just come like that?? Me; yaa.... Manager: Well i suggest this point forward you cover them up. Me....uhh..... ok... Thats pretty much how the conversation went. Honestly i was just soooo caught off guard that i didn't really even know how to react. Now that brings me to the main reason why i made this thread. I realize that people are going to wonder, and more than likely ask, but can an employer actually restrict you from wearing certain things(my case short sleeved shirts) because of a something physically on your body if that makes any sense. I could understand if it was a tattoo that they wanted to cover up, but a scar, something that generally people cant help..... almost like a birth mark. Next point, is it even worth it? I don't really want to make a big deal out of it. My work place has no idea of my mental health issues. At the same time though, as much as i want to hide it so people stop asking i also just want to be able to wear whatever i want and not care. Im trying to move on and forget about what happened before because honestly i regret it and if i hadn't been mixed with reality i wouldn't have done it. Im just torn as to what to do. Then there's the factor that i if i did decide to 'fight' it then i'd have to likely bring it up again which to be honest i dont even enjoy talking about. It's hard enough posting this here. If it were up to me i'd wear what i wanted and if a customer asked i'd tell them to mind their business, but customers would likely take that as being rude so i cant do that. I wish people would just mind their own business and not be so snoopy into other peoples lives. I feel like its not even my managers business and i feel like i shouldn't even have to be in the situation to explain this to her but it looks like i will. Im thinking of just saying that i was struggling in the past but im trying to look forward and id just like to forget about it and continue wear what i please(of course still following dress code). Or should i just suck it up and wear the long sleeved tops. Last thing, do you think this was brought up in an ethical manner? I don't know i cant put my finger on it but i just feel upset over the whole thing. It's probably just because of the whole burn thing and being ashamed of it and what not but i just also feel like theres something more that she did it in an almost rude manner? Or is it just me? Please tell me what your thoughts are on this. Also for future reference for future jobs how do you tell future employers? Im actually searching for another job(i was long before this happened) and if a colleague or employer asks me about it how would one respond to it? Any advice, thoughts, comments etc are welcome. Thanks.