My therapists think I'm being abused by my husband. They've kind of been freaking out about it recently. I don't think I would call it abuse. It doesn't happen very often. When it does happen, it's usually just a slap or two. Maybe he'll push me. A couple times when it got bad, I was pushed violently to the ground, kicked, and he also grabbed my hair and yanked my head back. The only injury I've had was my jaw getting knocked slightly out of place a few times. ...Ok, this sounds bad. But the thing is, it doesn't happen often. It's rare. And I think I cause it. When we fight, I push it until he snaps and hits me. It can't be abuse if I cause it and deserve it, right? And now I'm worried that this label of "abuse" or "domestic violence" will give my husband a bad name.