Writing letters to everybody *Possible trigger*

[perry_mason]

first off, to the admin people: i know that rules say "Please do not post suicide notes on the forum as they will be deleted." and i dont intend to break that but this topic may still be a little unsuitable and if it is, im sorry.

anyway to the topic.

I was planning on writing letters (not necessarily suicide notes) to everybody i used to know/like explaining what was going on in my life and why i was so 'weird' a lot of the time but it occured to me that i didnt really know what to write. i want to be honest but i also dont want to hurt people and cause trouble for other people on top of that.

Does anybody have any ideas on what i could write? what i should include and how should i do it?

 

[Reki]

I'm not sure I get what you mean. Are you writing letters to people to explain your behavior just to get it off of your chest and make amends or are you writing them so they won't be clueless if and when you off yourself? In either case, I think you should talk to them. Writing letters is too impersonal for things like that, it's much better to have that kind of conversation face-to-face. Just make sure you know what it is you want to say and why.

 

[Surviving]

As Reki mentioned, if you can find a way to talk to them then that is the way to proceed. I have been the recipient of a couple letters from people very close to me, and it gave me an instant disconnect I have never gotten over. Verbally you can communicate so much more...

 

[noplacetogo]

I disagree that letters are impersonal. I think a letter can express certain things a face to face conversation couldn't. There are just some things that are too hard to tell someone in person, but are easier to express fully in written word. My advice would be to write draft letters first. Say everything you want to say honestly and without any restrictions. Then read over them and smooth out the rough spots (the parts that sound hateful or hurtful) and use more tactful language without watering down any of your true feelings. If you feel hurt by someone, let them know. I don't think there is anything wrong with letting someone know how they hurt you. Just stay away from name-calling and don't let your emotions get the best of you in the letters, well, the final drafts anyway. As long as you are completely honest with what your trying to say, I don't think you can go wrong with a letter... and by letter, I mean a hand-written paper and pen deal, not email.

 

[perry_mason]

I want to distance myself from my former friends but im too much of a coward to talk to them (some wont want to see me anyway).

I just want to apologize to them for all the fuck ups ive made and explain various things to them so they will realize they are not to blame for some of the problems ive been having.

anyway, thanks for your thoughts on this. although im still unsure on what to do.