i reply to topics and threads i can offer advice on. well did anyhow. names are important, but so are the issues. theres no point in me replying to someones thread where i cant offer some advice for them to bounce off of in a positive mannor.
On another note, emotional pain is a deep feeling. for some its difficult to respond to people you do not know. if you know the person, u have some form of a connection thats started, making it easier to branch off and express yourself less as a txt guide and more as the person you are. emotional pain is part of us, so when you talk about it or try to offer advice, you are branching a part of us out to the person you are trying to reach. opening a very private door so to say. its easier when you know a person.
when u dont know a person, sometimes basic factual advice is how it starts out. its not emotional or warming, its a anchor point to move towards so that person can find some grounding, and by offereing that advice, u have a point to start communicating with eachother in that buffer zone, on how it relates to you, adding you to that factual point.
alot of us are really weak. its hard to be jump into an emotional voyage with someone you just don't know. sometimes you pour your heart out to someone and they ignore you, or respond in a mannor that burns you. its difficult to talk to people you dont know, easier to talk to people you do know. if you know them, you start to understand their preceptions and start to know what will harm them and what wont. there are many reasons for it, popularity? i dont think that applies here Ruby. we're people with problems, not people trying to dominate and submitt for the purpose of attention.
not trying to be off, but dont put me into either of those catagories. im neither, im simply me. im here because i have issues im trying to get over, and i respond to people based on if i can help. im sorry you feel like no one cares about you Ruby. Simply put i care. i dont know you but i do know you have something you're going through, otherwise you wouldnt be here. i know its hard when you actually put that into words and put it into view of the world, especially to people you do not know, and end up getting no responces, no one to help you dish it out and try and let your mind work with it. sometimes people just dont know how to help in that moment. bump youre threads, keep posting, go into the chat and talk, pm the admins and try to talk to them. dont spiral off of no one replying. it aint worth it, to you or anyone else. what matters is why you came here. Why you are here.
hope you feel better soon..
This isn't a forum based around ''support''. Nobody cares about me on here; but guess what? The feelings mutual.
can i ask what sparked these thoughts? better to talk about it then talk at it maybe.
